Using Love and Logic to Raise Resilient Kids – Dr. Charles Fay with Dave Asprey : 832
The Human Upgrade: Biohacking for Longevity & Performance
Dave Asprey
4.6 • 7.4K Ratings
🗓️ 17 June 2021
⏱️ 83 minutes
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Summary
How would you like to make parenting fun and rewarding, instead of stressful and chaotic? (And if you’re a grown-up son or daughter, you may want to improve your own relationship with your parents.}
In this episode of Bulletproof Radio, Charles Fay, Ph.D., gives practical and down-to-earth solutions to the most common and frustrating behaviors displayed by kids of all ages. He’s also a parent himself who admittedly makes mistakes. Parents can be frustrating, too.
The internationally recognized Love and Logic® approach he relies on come directly from years of research and clinical experience with severely disturbed youth and their families in psychiatric hospitals, public and private schools, and homes.
You’ll learn strategies and techniques from Dr. Fay that you can apply to daily parenting. This works for teachers and educators, too.
There are the 5 non-negotiable core principles of Love and Logic® that he talks through during the podcast. These can absolutely change your family dynamic: Mutual Dignity/Respect, Shared Thinking, Shared Control, Empathy and Relationship.
Dr. Fay also gives real-time action steps for implementing key components of resiliency: 1) emotional connection, 2) healthy limits, and 3) success experiences.
We talk about the emergence of “helicopter parenting” and why it doesn’t work. “We got to be able to offload problems onto the shoulders of the people who really need to own them, and we do it with love, but we do our friends, our family no favor when we're solving all their problems for them,” Dr. Charles says.
If you’re struggling, either a little or a lot, with the kids you parent or teach, you’ll get a lot of value out of this episode. If you want simple ways to better connect with your kids, you’ll get some nuggets of wisdom you can start using today.
Go to the Love and Logic Institute to find a wealth of resources for parents, educators and trainers. In particular, look for “7 Ways To Create A Respectful, Responsible, and Resilient Family” that was created in partnership with Dr. Daniel Amen.
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| 0:00.0 | Boatproof Radio, a state of high performance. |
| 0:05.5 | You're listening to Bullproof Radio with Dave Asprey. |
| 0:09.4 | Today's going to be a fun show because I get a lot of questions from the upgrade collective, |
| 0:14.5 | which is my membership and mentorship group that you should check out. |
| 0:18.1 | In fact, there's a bunch of upgrade collective members logged in live as I'm recording this |
| 0:22.4 | podcast, able to answer questions or ask questions at the end of the show. |
| 0:26.3 | But I get a lot of questions about parenting. |
| 0:28.9 | Dave, what do you do for parenting? |
| 0:30.9 | I think I'm a pretty good parent, but you know what? |
| 0:33.6 | Every parent thinks they're a pretty good parent. |
| 0:35.7 | At least some of the time, even if they're not. |
| 0:39.1 | So, how would I know if I'm good given my sample size is I had two parents. |
| 0:43.7 | So, I'm going to compare myself to them and everyone says I'm going to do better than |
| 0:47.9 | my parents, which usually means you do exactly what your parents did, even more or the exact |
| 0:52.5 | opposite of what your parents did, even more. |
| 0:55.3 | Because I've heard me talk about being vie curious, vaccine industry curious in the middle, |
| 1:01.1 | where you know, I'm going to pay attention to all the different data sources and make my |
| 1:04.5 | own decision. |
| 1:05.5 | It's hard to be a curious parent because, well, you just haven't seen enough. |
| 1:10.8 | So then what you do is you go to an expert who has seen a lot of parenting and studied |
| 1:14.9 | it and say, all right, well, what's going to work? |
| 1:16.5 | What's not going to work? |
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