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From the New York Times and WBUR Boston, this is Modern Love.

Stories of Love, loss and redemption.

I'm your host, Megna Chakrabardi.

Last month, our team brought a live performance of Modern Love to the Hot Docs Podcast Festival in Toronto.

Andrew Randalls was there, he's best known for his role in HBO's Girls, and he performed his own essay.

During a night of casual sex, urgent messages go unanswered.

And just a quick warning before you hear this, this particular episode has a lot of explicit language about sex,

and might not be appropriate for everybody.

Hello.

Okay.

I don't remember his last name.

His first name was Brad, which is the perfect name for a relatively faceless memory from your early 20s.

He was handsome with a nice smile and startlingly blue eyes.

I always thought that when eyes get too blue, it looks like a person has no soul.

It's like you're seeing too deeply into their head, and there's nothing back there.

But I had never dated anyone with blue eyes, and it was springtime.

Brad also had a nice body. He was muscled, but with extremely soft skin.

And this sex was good, I think.

There's a great debate among straight women and gay men as to what counts as sex.

Most of my female friends think that oral sex doesn't count. I disagree. I count it all.

If someone has an orgasm, I count it.

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