Hello and welcome to how to the show where listeners write to us with their most personal questions,

and then we find the perfect person to give us advice. I'm Carvel Wallace. And I'm Courtney

Martin. It's funny, by the time we put an episode out, the team and I have spent a considerable

amount of time, either with the listener or actively working on helping them solve a problem.

So we get kind of invested, you know. But the episode often ends with them getting the advice and just going back into the world to try it. Every once in a while we'll get an update. But more often than that, like this situation is like not cut and dry. You can't really give an update. You can't be like, oh I did learn how to trust myself

like it's a little bit more squishy than that

and so a lot of times we're just left not cut and dry. You can't really give an update. You can't be like, oh, I did learn how to trust

myself. Like, it's a little bit more squishy than that. And so a lot of times we're just left wondering, like, did this actually work? And this is why it's exciting to hear that you're actually going to sit down with a listener and talk about their experience. That's right. So last winter, we published an episode called How to Lose Your Virginity at 43.

Obviously, I myself, and I'm sure a lot of listeners, got highly invested in this one. Yes. Elizabeth, the listener for that episode, emailed us an update. I could not resist sitting down with her in debriefing. I'm so excited to hear this. So what we're going to do right now is we're going to hear that conversation.

And then after that, we're going to dip into the mailbag and place some advice that you guys

sent us.

And we're going to get to all of it right after this break.

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