Unsolicited Dog Training Advice: How To Protect Your Confidence And Your Dog #163

Shaped by Dog with Susan Garrett

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4.8 • 679 Ratings

🗓️ 6 July 2022

⏱️ 20 minutes

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If you’ve ever trained your dog in public or put a video on social media, chances are somebody has offered you unsolicited training advice. Likely it’s advice you don’t need, don’t want, and most certainly didn’t request. How to deal with it is a question we see frequently, so if you have ever received unsolicited dog training advice, this episode is for you!

In the episode you'll hear:

• That our job is always to protect and grow confidence for our dog and ourselves.
• How the advice you receive might be coming from a good place with helpful intent.
• The chances of a random stranger having any credentials in dog training is very low.
• How your internal dialogue is the most important thing, followed by your external response.
• What you can do to be proactive and why to think about your recovery response.
• That you can deflect to me if needed, and that advice might be like an offer to change a tire.
• How to handle online interactions and that when you feel furious, it’s time to get curious.
• What to do about unsolicited advice or dog training when it’s from visitors in your home.
• About dealing with unsolicited advice when it comes from an authority like your Vet.
• Why to never hand your dog over to anyone to “deal with” without asking questions.

Resources:

1. Podcast Episode 112: Stressed Dog? How Trigger Stacking Might Be Putting Your Dog Over Threshold - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/112/
2. Podcast Episode 153: Dog Muzzles: Everything You Need To Know And How To Muzzle Train Dogs - https://dogsthat.com/podcast/153/
3. YouTube Video - Vet Visits For Dogs: How To Create A Positive Experience For Everyone - https://youtu.be/VJc42BfNre4
4. YouTube Playlist: The Emotional State of Dogs with Susan Garrett - https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLphRRSxcMHy29pv3_9b7DZdMFJL9ZJPMy
5. Watch this Episode of Shaped by Dog on YouTube - https://youtu.be/q8mVmCd50jQ

Transcript

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0:00.0	If you've ever trained your dog in public or if you've ever put a video on social media,
0:04.4	chances are somebody is offered you unsolicited advice.
0:08.9	Now, your immediate response is a clapback, something like, I'm sorry, were you talking to me?
0:14.5	Or did you mistake me for somebody who actually cared what you thought?
0:18.8	But you know, that's just not polite, nor is it healthy for you.
0:23.4	And I'm going to get into that today. Plus, I'm going to share with you what you can do in those
0:29.1	situations.
0:47.5	Hi, I'm Susan Garrett. Welcome to Shape by Dog. This question has come up so often since we started this podcast. What can I do when people offer me unsolicited advice? And at first, I thought,
0:52.3	oh, come on, really? A whole podcast on that.
0:54.6	Now that I sat down and started designing this episode, I'm like, holy crap, I don't know if I can
0:59.6	fit all this into one podcast. So, let's dive in. Number one thing, I want you to keep this goal in
1:06.7	mind. Our jobs always to protect and grow confidence, both our dogs and our own. So, keep that
1:14.6	in the back of your mind. And number two, I want you to think, let's say you're broken down
1:18.8	on the side of the road and somebody pulls over and says, hey, do you need help changing that
1:22.6	tire? And the likelihood would be, you're going to say, oh, no, I got this, or yeah, that would be
1:28.4	great. Actually, I would love help. But chances are you're not going to think, what a jerk.
1:33.4	What are you doing offering to help me? So, we got to remember when people offer advice that they're
1:39.4	just genuinely trying to be helpful. That even though it might trigger us and sometimes they come at it
1:47.8	from a place of their ego, that if we believe deep down that people are doing the best they can
1:53.7	and they genuinely want to be helpful, then it's easier for us to not get triggered when that situation happens. But I'd also like you to keep
2:03.5	in mind a study done in 2015. I don't know how reliable that this is, but it suggested that
2:09.4	only 4% of the population of North America actually get professional advice for help with their dog.
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