Uninvited Guests - Words that Wound, Truth that Heals

Living on the Edge with Chip Ingram Daily Podcast

Living on the Edge

Religion & Spirituality, Christianity

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🗓️ 7 October 2025

⏱️ 25 minutes

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Summary

In the Book of Proverbs, King Solomon reminds us that “life and death are in the power of the tongue.” So it should come as no surprise that how we use our words really matters, especially when we talk to and about our spouse. In this program, Chip helps us better guard what comes out of our mouths and how we can repair past wounds we have created with careless or harsh comments. Discover how to cultivate a more loving and supportive environment with your mate.

Introduction:

Have you ever wondered why a little comment can cause such a big argument with your spouse?

Fighting lies with truth

Lie #14 (for women):

My husband’s attitude makes no sense to me. He gets so upset when I make even the smallest comment in front of others about something he did wrong.

The truth:

Husbands fear FUTILITY, the sense that they don’t measure up. That’s why my AFFIRMATION, refusing to CRITICIZE publicly, and PHYSICAL intimacy build up his confidence.

Key verse:

Philippians 2:3-4

Lie #15 (for men):

My wife’s attitude makes no sense to me. If I joke about her gaining weight or take notice of other women, she comes unglued.

The truth:

Women fear ABANDONMENT, of losing the relationship. That’s why saying “I LOVE you,” being a good LISTENER, and showing AFFECTION in public build up her sense of belonging.

Key verse:

Philippians 2:3-4

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0:00.0	The book of Proverbs reminds us that life and death are in the power of the tongue.
0:06.0	So how we use our words matters, especially when we talk to and about our spouse.
0:11.0	Coming up on Living on the Edge, we'll delve deeper into the subject, including how to navigate conflict with understanding and forgiveness.
0:19.0	I'm Dave Drewie. Thanks for joining us today as our Bible teacher, Chip Ingram continues to guide us through our
0:24.6	series Uninvited Guests.
0:26.6	So far, he's highlighted 13 lies that couples have unknowingly accepted, which can
0:32.6	subtly undermine their marriage.
0:34.6	In just a minute, he'll identify a few more that relate to this topic
0:38.3	of communication, an area that every couple can improve on. So if you haven't already, consider
0:44.0	inviting a few married friends to join you in this series. Everyone can listen at Living
0:48.9	On The Edge.org or wherever you listen to podcasts. All right, here now is Chip with his talk, Words That Wound, Truth That Heals.
0:59.4	Did you ever wonder why just a little comment can cause such a big argument?
1:06.0	Your spouse says some little thing or you say some little thing and all of a sudden you find yourself like
1:13.1	whoa where did that reaction come from and for the life of you it was like I can't figure out what
1:18.7	happened here this is nuts I mean I didn't say anything that should be offensive and as we look at
1:24.1	misbelief number 14 and number 15, I want to give you maybe some insight
1:28.5	that will be really helpful. I want to talk first to you, women. Misbelief number 14 is,
1:34.6	my husband's attitude makes no sense to me. He gets so upset when I make even the smallest
1:40.7	comment in front of others about something he did wrong. We've all been here.
1:46.1	You and another couple are going to a restaurant or maybe you're going to a concert. And it's a
1:52.4	really big parking lot. You are sitting in the front seat with your husband and you're driving
1:57.8	around and he's surveying the parking lot doing what men do, looking for a
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