Understanding the Narcissistic Trauma Bond, And How to Break Free

The Virtual Couch

Tony Overbay LMFT

Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

5 • 643 Ratings

🗓️ 25 November 2019

⏱️ 41 minutes

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In today's episode, Tony takes a deep dive into the article "How the Narcissistic Trauma Bond Ensnares" by Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC. Christine is a two-time former Virtual Couch podcast guest, and host of the popular, and informative podcast "Understanding Today's Narcissist." In the article, Christine shares the definition of the term trauma bonding, which is loyalty and continued commitment to an abusive person despite the intolerable treatment. In the case of a trauma bonding to a narcissist, there tends to be a persistent denial of the problem even when others bring the evidence to light. She then shares eight ways that people typically find themselves ensnared in the trauma bond. You can find the article here https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhausted-woman/2018/02/how-the-narcissistic-trauma-bond-ensnares/ (https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhausted-woman/2018/02/how-the-narcissistic-trauma-bond-ensnares/) You can learn more about Christine and many of the podcasts, programs, and articles that she has written and produced on the topic of narcissism at https://growwithchristine.com/ (https://growwithchristine.com/) as well as a way to listen to and subscribe to her podcast "Understanding Today's Narcissist." You can find Christine's two previous visits to The Virtual Couch at the following links: Talking about Narcissism, and Narcissist Personality Disorder here https://www.tonyoverbay.com/2018/10/29/episode-86-understanding-todays-narcissist-podcast-host-christine-hammond-lmhc-personality-disorder-expert/ (https://www.tonyoverbay.com/2018/10/29/episode-86-understanding-todays-narcissist-podcast-host-christine-hammond-lmhc-personality-disorder-expert/) And talking about Borderline Personality Disorder here https://www.tonyoverbay.com/2019/03/26/episode-118-understanding-borderline-personality-disorder-bpd-with-christine-hammond-lmhc/ (https://www.tonyoverbay.com/2019/03/26/episode-118-understanding-borderline-personality-disorder-bpd-with-christine-hammond-lmhc/) Tony Overbay's new book, co-authored with author Joshua Shea (The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships https://amzn.to/2O0KxAd (https://amzn.to/2O0KxAd)) He's A Porn Addict...Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions, is now available on Amazon, you can find it here https://amzn.to/2KylIcz (https://amzn.to/2KylIcz) And you can find out more about Tony's pornography recovery program The Path Back by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com (http://pathbackrecovery.com) And visit http://tonyoverbay.com (http://tonyoverbay.com) and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs, and podcasts. The Virtual Couch is sponsored by http://Betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://Betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) Betterhelp.com is the world's leading provider of online therapy. Their mission is to make professional counseling accessible, affordable, and convenient, so anyone who struggles with life's challenges can get help, anytime, anywhere. Head to http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://Betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) for 10% off your first month of services.

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0:00.0	The weather. Tomorrow, expect a biting cold front. Hmm, how naughty. I wonder what I'll be
0:06.8	wearing or taking off. The night will be wild and untamed. Expect heavy, lashing rain
0:13.0	that'll soak you to the skin. By Monday, temperatures will rise slowly but surely reaching
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0:41.6	Hey, so today's episode is actually sponsored by me, yours truly.
0:44.1	Have you been listening to The Virtual Couch for a little while now?
0:48.2	You've heard me mention typically right after the intro that I've recently co-authored a book along with author Josh Shea, who wrote a book called The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About.
0:52.7	And our book is called He's a Porn Addict, What, An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions.
0:57.4	And I've already been taken a task by kind emailers and clients alike for when I say that it's not quite a page turner in the likes of John Grisham or Catherine Stockett.
1:06.4	And I've simply said those things out of humor because I really am grateful, first of all, for Josh asking me to be the co-author of this book.
1:12.4	And you'll hear more from Josh and me about this book in a future episode.
1:16.4	But quickly, after he released his first book, The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About, he went on to do some 70 or more radio and TV and podcast interviews.
1:25.1	And he came back to me and pitched a book idea because he said that he
1:28.3	felt more of a connection with me. And again, I'm really grateful. So quickly, the book has
1:33.3	chapters that are full of questions that are asked by people truly in the thick of things. People
1:37.3	who have just discovered that their spouse has been looking at pornography or maybe acting out
1:41.6	with compulsive sexual behavior for years, sometimes even decades
1:44.8	without their knowing, or that they had said that they were fine or that they had stopped
1:48.7	previously but continued to act out, hiding what they were doing and often making their spouses
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