Understanding Emotions with Susan David

The One You Feed | Personal Growth, Emotional Resilience & Purpose

Eric Zimmer, The One You Feed

Buddhism, Mental Health, Religion & Spirituality, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education

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🗓️ 4 August 2020

⏱️ 41 minutes

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Susan David is a psychologist on faculty at Harvard Medical School. She’s also the co-founder and co-director of The Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital and is CEO of Evidence-Based Psychology. Along with speaking and consulting, Susan is also the author of Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life. In this episode, Susan David and Eric examine how we can experience, interpret, talk about, and relate to our emotions so that we live a life that is more intentional and deeply rooted in what we value. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Susan David and I Discuss Understanding Emotions and… Her book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change and Thrive in Work and Life The problem of going on autopilot through our habitual actions The problem of going on autopilot through the habits of our internal world The benefits of taking time to think about what we value and then examining our habitual patterns to find ways they might be out of alignment That we own our emotions, they don’t own us Values as qualities of action Engaging with choice points in life Actions as votes towards the person we want to be The mistaken view of emotions as good or bad Emotions as signposts for the things we care about That emotions are data, not directives How to decipher whether emotions are old habitual patterns or present-day valuable signals Asking, “Is my believing this emotion opening me up to thrive or shutting me down into something small?” Being compassionate and curious with difficult emotions Hearing yourself when you describe your emotions Utilizing emotion granularity to more accurately label and better understand emotions The skill of noticing our emotions so that they don’t define us Differentiating emotions from thoughts Emotions during times of uncertainty Gentle acceptance as a prerequisite to change Susan David Links: susandavid.com Emotional Agility Quiz Ted Talk: The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage Facebook Twitter Instagram Athletic Greens: The all in one daily drink to get daily nutritional needs, support better health and peak performance. Visit www.athleticgreens.com/feed to get 20 free daily travel packs with your first purchase. Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf SimpliSafe: Get comprehensive protection for your entire home with security cameras, alarms, sensors as well as fire, water, and carbon monoxide alerts. Visit simplisafe.com/wolf for free shipping and a 60-day money-back guarantee. If you enjoyed this conversation with Susan David on Understanding Emotions, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Susan David (February, 2019) Hilary Jacobs Hendel See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Are there ways that I am being right now today that take me away from the person, the partner, the loved one, the leader that I most want to be?
0:18.9	Welcome to the one you feed.
0:21.0	Throughout time, great thinkers have recognized the importance of the thoughts we have,
0:25.6	quotes like garbage in, garbage out, or you are what you think, ring true. And yet, for many of us, our thoughts don't strengthen or empower us.
0:35.4	We tend to add negativity, self-pity, jealousy, or fear. We see what we don't have instead of what we do.
0:43.0	We think things that hold us back and dampen our spirit.
0:46.4	But it's not just about thinking. Our actions matter. It takes conscious, consistent, and creative effort to make a life worth living.
0:54.8	This podcast is about how other people keep themselves moving in the right direction. How they feed their good wolf.
1:01.2	Thanks for joining us. Today we are welcoming back Susan David, as a guest. She's a psychologist on faculty at Harvard Medical School.
1:23.2	She's the co-founder and co-creator of the Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital and the CEO of Evidence-Based Psychology.
1:32.2	Along with speaking and consulting, Susan is also the author of many books, including emotional agility.
1:38.8	Get unstuck, embrace change, and thrive and work in life.
1:43.6	Hi Susan, welcome to the show. Hi, I'm delighted to be with you.
1:47.4	It's a pleasure to have you on again. We don't have a whole lot of two-time guests. We've got some, but you've joined an esteemed club. Welcome back.
1:56.8	Thank you. We'll get into the rest of our conversation in a moment, but let's start like we normally do with the wolf parable.
2:03.0	There's a grandmother who's talking with her granddaughter and she says in life, there are two wolves inside of us that are always at battle.
2:10.4	One is a good wolf, which represents things like kindness and bravery and love, and the other is a bad wolf.
2:17.4	Which represents things like greed and hatred and fear, and the granddaughter stops and she thinks about it for a second.
2:23.7	She looks up at her grandma and says, well, grandma, which one wins?
2:28.4	And the grandmother says, the one you feed.
2:32.0	So I'd like to start off by asking you what that parable means to you in your life and in the work that you do.
2:38.6	So thank you. I love the parable.
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