Uncompromising Intimacy

You Are Not Broken

Kelly Casperson, MD

Medicine, Health & Fitness

5 • 743 Ratings

🗓️ 30 June 2021

⏱️ 54 minutes

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Listen to this with your partner! So much talk about partner communication I am so excited to talk to Dr. Alexandra Stockwell. We officially met on a panel for sexperts in October 2020! Which are really the only panels I should sit on these days as they are so fun! She is on a mission to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of stagnation and companionship to the delectable joy a couple can feel when they build passion and excitement to nourish them both. How do you define a “juicy” relationship? Why people compromise in their relationships. Great sex in a long-term relationship is no accident – talk about the myth of why people think it should be easy or not take work. Tips for becoming a better lover. Why did you write “uncompromising intimacy”? There is a couple – late 60’s – early 70s….he watches porn, turns down her advances – she keeps asking for sex…she states she is torn between divorce and suicide……where would you start? So many women fake orgasm – give me your thoughts on that. You have said that “Humans learn by observation or modeling” – I totally fell in love with that statement. How does that apply to your work? We were talking in January about a stat that 49% of women in their 50s stop having sex – then we had to nerd out and look that up. What do we tell women in their 40s/50s about the next decade of life with their spouse? People are afraid to talk about sex – but it is the vulnerability and communication that actually builds intimacy – people feel entitled to intimacy without doing the hard work. Underneath every complaint is a desire. How to have sex like a woman! Okay, tell us about your programs, how to find/follow you and get your book! Uncompromising Intimacy: Turn your unfulfilling marriage into a deeply satisfying, passionate partnership. https://amzn.to/2UCQZmA The Marriage Podcast with Dr. Alexandra Stockwell: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-marriage-podcast/id1548060690 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Welcome to You Are Not Broken, the only podcast that combines science, medicine, and psychology, to re-educate your brain and help you live your best-to-love life.
0:15.9	And I'm your host, Ford Certified Female Urologist, Dr. Casperson.
0:26.0	Thank you. board-certified female urologist, Dr. Casperson. I'm so excited to talk to Dr. Alexandra Stockwell today.
0:29.2	We officially met on a panel for sexverts in October 2020,
0:32.6	which is pretty much the only panel I'm going to do from now on because they're pretty
0:35.5	fun.
0:36.3	She's on a mission to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of stagnation and
0:41.8	companionship to the delectable joy a couple can feel when they build passion and excitement
0:46.4	to nourish them both. I'm so excited you're here. Welcome. Thank you. I love our conversations,
0:52.5	which usually are late night messenger exchanges. So to be able to have a
0:57.3	conversation that other people can listen to, it's exciting. I'm so excited for people to meet you.
1:03.3	Let's dive in. How do you define a juicy relationship? Well, the term that I use, it's the title of my book,
1:10.0	is uncompromising intimacy.
1:12.7	And even if it wouldn't be approved in a high school English class, I'm going to start by
1:17.8	talking about what juicy isn't. The most common relationship advice that is given really
1:24.4	throughout the Western world and perhaps across the globe is that you need to learn
1:29.3	to compromise. If you want to have a wonderful marriage, you need to be excellent at compromising
1:36.5	because that is the key to a long-lasting conflict-free relationship. And while that may be helpful in a long-lasting conflict-free relationship, it is not helpful
1:50.1	if what you want is a juicy, dynamic, passionate relationship, which continues to improve
1:57.4	with the decades, which, while we don't have a lot of reference points in our culture
2:02.4	is absolutely possible. If that's something, if you're listening and that's what you want,
2:09.6	the key is to be uncompromising. In other words, to learn to bring all of yourself to the relationship,
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