Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life. And now here's your

host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach, Carla Lohanthile.

Hello, my little hands. I've decided I should address you guys by a different

animal kingdom group each time. So we're going with poultry for Thanksgiving.

All right, so before we get started today, I just want to tell you guys I went

through a kind of unexpected personal loss over this weekend and not going to

bore any of you with the details because this is about changing your thoughts,

not mine, but I do want to talk about it a little bit with you guys before I get to my

plan content because coaching yourself on a day to day basis, it like definitely produces

results, right? It decreases procrastination, it decreases stress and anxiety, it increases

your ability to connect other people, it decreases your dating anxiety, it improves your body,

it does a million amazing things. I talk about all the time. But honestly, the times that

I really find that coaching has sort of prepared me the most and in a way that blows my mind

is when something unexpected does happen. Because before I knew how to coach myself when

something unexpected happened, I just would lose my shit, right? In different ways, but my

brain would be running crazy all over the place and my thoughts would be like in a huge

swirl and my emotions would be all over the place and I would feel super overwhelmed and

I would just feel like I was totally at the mercy of my emotions and that I had no controller

for them. And what I've really noticed, you know, I've noticed this in the past, but particularly

in this new situation that I'm dealing with is that the emotion and the feeling flows

through me so cleanly now. And it's something that's almost hard to describe if you've never

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