All right, team, welcome back to The Man Talk Show.

Connor Beaton here.

And today, I'm going to be teaching you about the two main things that you need to understand

to fix your insecure attachment.

When I say insecure, I mean anxious, avoidant, disorganized, dismissive, fearful,

whatever it is that your attachment style is. If it's insecure, I'm going to teach you the two

things that you need to know and understand and work on in order to move towards a secure

attachment style. And this is something that I haven't seen anybody else really talk about.

So you're going to want to stay tuned because I'm going to go through each attachment style

and teach you the specific things that you need to know and do. So let's dive straight in.

Every attachment style is really organized around one thing. Okay. And I'm going to break this

into secure attachment and insecure attachment.

Secure attachment is organized around safety. It's safe for me to express my needs, wants,

and desires. It's safe for me to say no. It's safe for me to create space or closeness and intimacy.

Whereas the insecure attachment style, again, anxious, avoidant, dismissive, whatever,

is organized around threat. So not the danger of a bear in the woods or, you know,

some type of physical threat, although that might be the case for some of you, but specifically relational threat, rejection, abandonment, loss of autonomy or agency,

engulfment, right, kind of that emmeshment that can happen from some parents,

being not understood or not seen, being overly controlled. And so the insecure attachment

style is a threat detection system. And when that threat detection system gets activated, you do not choose your response. You don't choose how you respond. You automatically respond. your nervous system responds.

And today, I'm going to break down three main things.

Okay, the first is what the threat is for each attachment style.

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