Hello and welcome back to practicing human the podcast where every day we're getting a little better at life. I am your host Corey Miskara and today we're going to talk about your Garden of Happiness and how are you tending to it.

More to come on that in a moment,

but first, let's settle in with the sound of the bells.

the sound of the bells. Okay, so if your happiness, your well-being was a garden, which of the following best represents

how you tend to that garden?

Is it one clearing away the weeds or two growing plants and flowers?

One, clearing away the weeds or two growing plants and flowers.

Which one feels most resonant with how you tend to your garden of well-being.

Now, you might have an immediate response to this,

and then you might also be thinking,

what the heck are you talking about, Cori?

Get to the point.

Well, I'll get to the point. The point is a lot of times we take one of two

approaches as it relates to cultivating well-being in our lives. The first is we tend to try to get rid of the things we don't want, clear away the people

we don't like, clear away the job we don't want, clear away the debt we don't want, and

then the other is we try to grow more of what we do want. Get that relationship, buy

that home, go on that vacation, have more relaxation. And I think you get here both of those

and immediately go, yeah, actually both are important and it's true. Both approaches are necessary for your

well-being, which is a basic premise in the science of positive psychology.

However, what positive psychology also recognizes,

as something that was lacking from the field of psychology,

was that we typically tend to favor one over the other.

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