Hello, hello everyone. This is Tanya Dalton, owner of Inquale Press, and I'm here to give you another episode of The Weekender.

Well, it's that time of year when the holidays are officially on everyone's radar, which

also means the high stress of the season is now fully upon us.

But we all deserve a no-stress November.

There's so much pressure on all of us to make sure our holidays are perfect.

You know I hate that word perfect because it's not achievable.

No one has a perfect Thanksgiving or a perfect holiday. Perfect only happens in Norman Rockwell

paintings. We're all busy pinning our favorite holiday ideas on Pinterest and that's great,

but let's take a deep breath here. We can't do all of them.

There are a few simple rules to remember with the holidays.

Are you ready?

Rule number one.

There are no rules.

Seriously, there are none.

Who says you have to have a 15-pound turkey

or a gravy made from scratch for your holiday meals?

No one. You need to make the holidays work for you in your life. Maybe you're not a fine China kind of person. That's okay.

Get some disposable plates. It's going to be all right. Now if your mother-in-law gives you the

side-eye, tell her you'll do the fine dishes as long as she's in charge of cleanup.

Now, I know it's hard to let go of some of our expectations, but it's okay. I've done it myself.

I love to cook. I really do. It's one of those things I find relaxing and fun, so I take a lot of

pride in my Thanksgiving spread. It's like the Super Bowl of

...