Hello, hello, everyone.

This is Tanya Dalton, owner of Inquell Press, and I'm here to give you another episode of The Weekender, a mini episode to help you end your week on the right note.

Now, this past week in episode 45, we talked about the power of

choice and how even when we think we don't have choices, we really do. We learn to explore

those choices which strengthens our internal locus of control. And when you have a strong locus

of control, that in turn increases your confidence, makes you more likely to be a leader, and to thrive in the midst of challenges.

One of the topics we talked about was for people who felt like they have no choices, how we can offer up ways to instill that locus of control.

And that got me thinking about kids. That's another group

of people who don't often feel like they have choices. Don't I want to help instill a strong locus

of control for my children? The answer, of course, is that I do. And I've always been very cognizant

of offering choices to my kids. I'm a huge advocate

for love and logic style of parenting. And if you've ever met me in person and asked me a

question about raising your kids, you know I immediately direct you to their books and videos.

I'm a huge fan. Essentially, the way that love and logic works is you teach

your kids about choices and you give them choices throughout their day. Why? Well, because if we

make all their choices for them, when it comes down to the big choices, like, do I say yes to this

offer of a beer? Should I give smoking a try?

Well, they have no frame of reference on how to choose if I have continued to make choices for them.

The added benefit is that it gives them a little sense of control over their day. Think about it.

All day long, their lives are dictated by others, when they'll

eat, what time they'll go to bed, and so on. And we know from this week's episode,

feeling in control helps people be more optimistic, and it motivates us. The way love and logic works

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