Don't match that metronome because you'll end up in a neglect system. So when you feel like you're an intrusion to someone because they're in a blue state and you want to go interact.

The worst thing you could do would be to match their blue state and go parallel.

They need you to come get them. Hey everybody.

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Hi, first of all thank you for your podcast. I'm listening in from Berlin Germany and find them very insightful.

I've just finished listening to the episode about mentalizing

Prior that I had listened to your talk about attachment styles.

Well, here's my question.

If someone is so far on the blue spectrum,

they are completely out of touch with emotions and needs in intimate relationships, the needs of themselves

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