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Therapist Uncensored Podcast

TU60: Preoccupation in Relationships – Signs and Solutions to Anxious Attachment

Therapist Uncensored Podcast

Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP & Ann Kelley PhD

Social Sciences, Society & Culture, Science, Education, Self-improvement, Relationships

4.71.5K Ratings

🗓️ 16 April 2018

⏱️ 35 minutes

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Summary

Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP discuss the Insecure Preoccupied, or Anxious/Ambivalent side of the attachment spectrum.  This discussion can stand alone, but it also continues as a soft Part 2 from last episode TU59: Are You Cool or Just Cut Off – Dismissing Attachment.  The hosts begin to really go into how to use the attachment spectrum and use it to identify where you might fall and how to move towards a more secure place.   Find out how preoccupied attachment is formed and passed on, as well as how starting anxious effects relationships later in our adult life. You’ll learn how to manage relationships better by turning inwards and regulating yourself rather than focusing on others to calm you down. Ann Kelley & Sue Marriott, co-hosts, will also provide basic tips towards identifying where you are on the attachment spectrum and moving from preoccupation towards security.

Transcript

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0:00.0

Welcome to Therapist Uncensored, a podcast where therapists freely speak their minds about real life matters.

0:09.0

Welcome to Therapist Unsensored. I am Sue Marriott and I am Ann Kelly. Welcome to

0:16.8

today's episode. So today we're going to talk about attachment and we're going to

0:21.2

talk about the

0:23.5

continuum of attachment all the way over to the right and what we call the red the anxious

0:28.0

preoccupied attachment category. So let's stop for just a second for those of you that this isn't familiar too and

0:34.8

Sue why don't you tap in what are we talking about? So what you might want to do

0:40.2

because we don't want to just repeat things over and over on these episodes but at the same time we know that somebody might be just tuning in.

0:45.6

So if you go back one episode to 59 we cover more of the basics and we're going to jump in a little bit

0:52.4

further than that this time.

0:54.4

And also in episode 37 we talk about disorganized attachment,

0:57.9

organizing the disorganized.

1:00.2

And basically what the research shows is that there are four roughly organized categories.

1:06.7

That's one way to think of it.

1:08.2

From a research perspective that are pretty stable, lots of research that shows that this is very solid findings, right?

1:16.0

Organized categories of attachments.

1:18.0

Organized categories of attachment. There's organized secure, organized and secure, which is two different ones, which is preoccupied and

1:24.4

dismissive, and then there's something called disorganized. So that's just a quick,

1:28.6

very, very fast review. In an episode 59, we gave a pretty detailed description of dismissive attachment.

1:37.0

That's right and we've also spoken the only reason we're covering this again is because we're going to jump right into preoccupied.

1:43.8

But we've also covered the difference between these categories, which are the internal working

1:49.7

models.

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