Welcome to Therapist Uncensored, a podcast where therapists freely speak their minds about real life matters.

Hey everybody, welcome back. in today's episode we are picking up on the second half of a

conversation with Doug Braun Harvey. Doug is based in San Diego and he along with co-authorito have published a very fun book actually.

It's called Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior, Rethinking Sex Addiction. It's a way of talking about sexuality. sexual behavior, rethinking sex addiction.

It's a way of talking about sexuality with pleasure and vitality and fun and passion

and really Doug has been instrumental in changing the conversation nationally and even been behind some

laws that have been changed in the area of sexual health.

It's a combination of mental health and sexuality and I think you're

going to really enjoy it. So again this is the second episode. If you've missed the first

one, then just scroll up or down on your player and you'll see it.

It's the one right next to it right before.

But certainly if you want to just go ahead and dive in and

it's self-contained by it'll still be fun.

Believe me.

You probably will still want to go back and listen to the first one, but all right, let's dive right in.

Now the dilemma with Desire discrepancy is it moves too quickly to focus on frequency.

I think Desire, it gets confused. Frequency of sex is a different issue than

desire so one of the things I was going to say about desire is one thing a couple

can experiment with is if you don't feel desirous of sex, we know people can get sexually

excited if they just start having sex. So people think if they don't feel

desire they shouldn't move towards sex but actually many people start

feeling sexually desirous after they start having sex. So have you experimented with that? Have you tried

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