Welcome to Therapists Unsensored, a podcast where therapists freely speak their minds about real life matters.

Welcome back to Therapist Unsensored. This is episode 18 where we're going to talk about how communicating with our loved ones

can feel so charged and dangerous at times.

Using the Polyvago Theory, we'll discuss why we have extreme reactions to those we love

even when we don't want to.

I'm Anne Kelly.

I'm Patty all well, and I'm Anne Kelly. I'm Patty all well and I'm Sue Marriott and we are happy

that you have either rejoined us or found us because we're going to be talking about

something that we actually haven't covered at all yet on the podcast.

It's going to be a new subject about the brain and figuring out why we do the really

dumb things that we do sometimes, which is kind of our specialty, isn't it?

Doing the dumb things or talking about both, I guess.

I think my specialty is probably doing them.

So the book, let's just start with that and who that we're going to be covering is, he's a researcher and a clinician and his name is

Stephen Porches and the book title.

It's a mouthful is a poly bagel theory the foundation of emotions attachment

communication and self-regulation.

Well, I thought I would start with a very embarrassing example.

Is that going to be okay?

Sure.

We'd be delighted to hear your example.

Exactly.

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