Having our feelings is the key.

Not trying to be happy all the time,

not being what Mary Ainsworth called long suffering mothers,

who are trying to do the right thing.

Yes, we want to be our best selves for our children, but our best selves are

selves who completely metabolize.

Yeah, they're messy.

Our best self is messy.

Well, it's messy and it's really dealing with the stress,

not just knowing we're messy, but like getting in there

and feeling all the feelings and learning to negotiate with ourselves and

learning to navigate the darkness and the shadows.

And if we keep the shadows shadowy, that is what we're going to transmit to our children. So if we have

a lot of energy for parenting like so many in the West do, I like to recommend that

people put that energy toward unpacking their own feelings and thoughts and ideas around who they think they are

Because that will actually really serve your child more than

signing them up for the very best X, Y, or Z for their whole life.

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Now, hear your co-host, Dr. Ann Kelly and Sue Marriott. Hi y'all this is Anne. You know we've learned no better way to educate than to

tell a good story and that's just what Bethany Saltman our guest has done with

her new book Strange Situation on Mother's Journey

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