Trying to Control the Uncontrollable
ShrinkChicks
Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT and Emmalee Bierly, LMFT
4.9 • 755 Ratings
🗓️ 13 March 2023
⏱️ 46 minutes
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Summary
On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking all about control: why it feels so good, where the desire for control can come from, and how to start releasing it. They answer your questions about letting go of perfectionism when it has been a helpful skill, working past what things are "supposed to" be or look like, trusting other people to take the lead, fears behind releasing control, and if control is just an illusion. They then answer a Dear Em & Jen about adjusting goals and your life path after getting into a relationship. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!
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| 0:00.0 | So let me be honest for a second. |
| 0:02.0 | Braves and underwear have always been a pain point for me. |
| 0:05.3 | You know the drill. |
| 0:06.3 | Strap sticking in, bands that never sit quite right, |
| 0:09.8 | underwear that either rolls or rides up. |
| 0:12.4 | I'd get so frustrated shopping for bras and underwear that I kind of gave up. |
| 0:17.2 | I'd add things to my cart online, stare at them, and then just never check out. |
| 0:21.6 | Because in the back of my mind, I figured it'll just be another letdown. |
| 0:25.8 | But recently, I finally took the plunge with skims, and I cannot believe I waited this long. |
| 0:30.0 | I started with a fits everybody collection, and let me tell you, it is like, oh, so this is what it's supposed to feel like. |
| 0:37.1 | The fabric is unreal. Silky, soft, stretching all the right ways, and it somehow manages to feel light but still supportive. |
| 0:45.1 | My absolute favorite piece, the triangle bra. |
| 0:47.9 | I am not exaggerating when I say it is the most comfortable bra I have ever owned. |
| 0:53.3 | Usually the second I walk in the door, |
| 0:55.0 | I cannot wait to take my bra off, but with this one, half the time I forget I'm even wearing it. |
| 0:59.7 | It's supportive without squeezing and it just feels good on my body. And now I'm kind of obsessed. I |
| 1:05.8 | keep looking at the rest of the skim site, making mental wishless and a set of abandoning my cart |
| 1:10.3 | like I used to, |
| 1:11.5 | I'm actually excited to click checkout. It feels like I finally found intemates that actually work |
| 1:16.0 | for me. Pieces I don't have to think about all day because they just feel good. I get it now. |
| 1:21.3 | This is why people rave about skims and why I'm officially hooked. Shop skims fit. Everybody's |
| 1:26.9 | collection at skims.com. |
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