Emotional Disconnect. How do you deal with somebody who has emotionally disconnected from you?

They've separated themselves from you, they are very difficult to get through to.

This is something that I learned about when I was in my first long-term relationship.

It was a last, I'd say a year and a half, almost two years of our relationship where she felt so distant from me. I could not really connect with her anymore and I was so

not confrontational back then. I did not want to bring it up. I didn't want to talk about it. I just tried

harder. I tried different things. I said I love you and I did nice things for her but she stayed distant and I could tell she

was distant because everything became quite I don't want to say sterile it wasn't sterile but in a way it was but there were

patterns repeating that were very disconnected.

patterns repeating.

So that's how I was able to tell that something was going on.

But again, I wasn't the confrontational type, so I wasn't going to say hey what's going on I should have

because almost two years went by before I figured it out before I actually asked her to reveal to me what was going on but before I get to that I just

want to bring up the idea the concept of emotional disconnect,

distancing yourself from someone or them distancing themselves

from you, but they're still there.

They're there and not there.

And you look at them and you think,

what happened?

Where did they go?

They used to do this and they used to do this. For me it was, she used to do this and they used to do this.

For me it was she used to give me eye contact.

She used to kiss me more and differently.

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