Try This Just For Today

The Angry Therapist Podcast

John Kim

Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 5 August 2022

⏱️ 15 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, John challenges you to not expect anything for an entire day, and why it's important not to put weight on expectations.

Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.

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0:00.0	Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago
0:05.6	and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.
0:10.4	I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose
0:16.2	because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.
0:21.6	Okay, try this. Just for today, try to see if you can go about your day expecting nothing.
0:33.0	I know that sounds weird and I know that we should expect things like if you say hi to someone of course you expect the person to say hi back.
0:43.4	If you open a door, you say thank you, you expect the return,
0:48.0	especially from people we love, people who are close to us.
0:51.0	But as an experiment, just try this because I'm telling you, and this is from my own personal life,
0:58.0	expectation always creates a cliff for us to fall off of and then we get hurt or we get angry.
1:10.0	And so as an experiment, if you for one day, because I'm not saying to live this way, right,
1:18.7	I don't know if it's really healthy to live this way, or maybe it is, I don't know,
1:22.3	maybe in this one day if you do it you will
1:25.3	have a revelation where you realize the power that expectation had on you. So most of my life I expected, especially in relationships. I expected this, I expected, well I'm not just
1:51.1	going to say this and that, I should be more specific. I expected sex. I expected compliments. I expected, well, my relationships were monogamous, so I expected my partners to be faithful, of course.
2:09.0	I expected communication.
2:10.9	I expected, you know, a lot of things and I think of course it is
2:17.2	healthy to have non-negotiables and of course there are expectations in every
2:21.9	relationship but I also learned that by living in a way where
2:28.1	you put a lot of weight on the expectation, meaning you're just kind of waiting and responding based on what comes back, you know?
2:41.0	I don't think, I think that's easy love. I think that's young love. I don't think that's
2:49.5	mature or even a spiritual greater than you love, you know, because whatever you want is tied to something.
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