Trusting What You Know is True When Others Gaslight You - High Functioning Women Series Part Three [376]
Flying Free
Natalie Hoffman
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🗓️ 12 May 2026
⏱️ 29 minutes
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Summary
This is Part Three of our series on high-functioning Christian women in destructive marriages. You are the woman people call when something complicated needs solving. You read rooms, spot patterns, and get it right. And yet in this one area of your life, you have been told that your judgment, specifically, cannot be trusted.
Key Takeaways:
- Why the very perceptiveness that makes you exceptional everywhere else has been deliberately turned off in your marriage
- What is actually happening when religious systems tell you to wait, and who is really benefiting from your patience
- How to tell the difference between genuine knowing and fear, and which one you have most likely been carrying all these years
- What "blind adherence" has to do with faith, and why the real version of faith might look completely different than what you have been taught
- The one question that changes everything when someone tells you to wait a little longer
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| 0:00.0 | Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying FreeNow.com, and you're listening to the Flying Free |
| 0:07.8 | podcast, a support resource for women of faith looking for hope and healing from hidden |
| 0:14.2 | emotional and spiritual abuse. Welcome to episode 375 of the Flying Free Podcast. This is part two of a series I've been doing on |
| 0:25.8 | high-functioning Christian women in destructive marriages. In part one, we talked about who this |
| 0:32.0 | woman actually is. She's the woman who holds everything together, excels at nearly everything she touches, and yet |
| 0:39.9 | somehow she is more stuck, more confused, and more blamed than almost anyone around her. |
| 0:47.1 | Now, if you missed part one, I'd encourage you to go back and listen, but here's the quick version. |
| 0:52.1 | The very qualities that make her extraordinary in the world |
| 0:55.8 | are the same qualities that make her exceptionally vulnerable inside a destructive relationship. |
| 1:02.8 | Her strength is what keeps her from being believed by her church, by her counselor, |
| 1:09.2 | sometimes even by herself. So today we're going to talk about one of |
| 1:13.0 | the most specific of those qualities, which is empathy. Now, empathy is a good thing, maybe one of the |
| 1:19.2 | best things. But also, in the hands of an abuse of man and an enabling religious system, |
| 1:25.6 | empathy can be one of the most targeted things about you. |
| 1:29.3 | So today I want to do three things. I want to name your empathy for what it actually is. |
| 1:34.9 | I want to show you exactly how it's been used against you. And then I want to give it back to you, |
| 1:41.1 | the real version, not the hijacked one. But first, I want to address a book that |
| 1:47.7 | was written by a modern day Pharisee. The book is called the sin of empathy. Crazy, huh? This was |
| 1:56.4 | written by a religious authoritarian who weaponizes scripture to maintain male dominance. |
| 2:03.6 | He uses religious language to burden others while protecting his own power. He doesn't teach |
| 2:09.6 | the Bible. He recruits it to defend his authority. This is a religious manipulator who reframes |
| 2:17.2 | empathy as a sin in order to suppress |
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