TRIGGERED! When you compare yourself to others (and feel inadequate or not good enough)
Inner Work: A Spiritual Growth Podcast
Josephine Hardman
4.9 • 619 Ratings
🗓️ 30 January 2021
⏱️ 17 minutes
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Summary
A very common trigger that most of us experience is comparing ourselves to others and then feeling worse about ourselves. This is also called "compare & despair", and it can bring up intense feelings of inadequacy, not being good enough, and impostor syndrome.
In this episode, I dive into this particular trigger and the different ways in which it might be showing up in your life. I share what has helped me become un-triggered and shift my experience with "compare & despair" into a doorway for expansion and for identifying my true desires.
I also delve into the shadow side of comparing ourselves to others and offer suggestions for working with that shadow.
I hope this will be helpful for you, wherever you are on the healing path! To share feedback or your own triggers, you can always email me at me@josephinehardman.com
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Music & editing by G. Demers
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Inner Work, a spiritual growth podcast. |
| 0:06.5 | I'm your host, Josephine Hartman. |
| 0:08.9 | I'm an intuitive healer and certified Akashik Records reader and teacher, |
| 0:14.0 | driven by the purpose of helping others become more powerful by reconnecting to the healer within. |
| 0:19.6 | To explore my work or connect with me, you can |
| 0:22.6 | visit josephinehardman.com. If you feel called to support the podcast, please leave a rating |
| 0:28.8 | or review on Apple Podcasts. I so appreciate your presence here, and I'm honored to serve |
| 0:35.0 | as a guide or companion on your path for a little while. |
| 0:39.1 | Now, on to the episode. |
| 0:46.5 | There's something very human about comparing ourselves to others. |
| 0:51.3 | This is also a very ego-driven behavior because in order to compare yourself to anyone |
| 0:57.1 | else, you have to first believe that you're separate from that person, that you're separate from |
| 1:02.3 | everyone else. As I'm sure you know, the spiritual perspective is that we're not separate, |
| 1:07.8 | that we're actually all interconnected and part of the same whole. |
| 1:12.7 | So when we take the spiritual perspective, it's almost impossible to compare ourselves to others, |
| 1:19.0 | since we are others and others are us. We are all one. So that sounds great in theory, and it really |
| 1:27.1 | is true. But what do you do when your human side |
| 1:30.9 | or your ego side drives you to compare yourself to someone else and then to feel worse about |
| 1:37.8 | yourself? This can happen in many different contexts and settings. For example, the experience of compare and despair might be |
| 1:46.3 | strongest for you in the realm of work or your professional life, or it might be strongest |
| 1:52.7 | when you compare yourself with other mothers, if you happen to be a mother yourself, or a parent |
| 2:00.6 | yourself, or it might be strongest when you compare |
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