Hello and welcome to being well. I'm Forrest Hansen. If you're new to the show,

thanks for joining us today. And if you've listened before, welcome back. I'm joined, as usual,

by clinical psychologist Rick Hansen. So dad, how are you doing today? I'm feeling good. I'm wearing my

black t-shirts. Yes, got the black t black t-shirt going. It's going to be loose and liberated and free. It's going to be kind of a different, you know, black cowboy hat energy to the whole enterprise. Should be fun. And it's perfect because today we're going to be answering some questions from our listeners. If you'd like to have a question

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continuing education credits, which is a really useful thing for some people. So normally on

the mailbag, we try to answer quite a few questions. Today we have

a smaller number of questions, but I thought they were all very juicy and interesting, so we might

spend a little longer on each one. Okay, first question. I grew up in unsafe environments, have

complex trauma, and I've worked hard to heal and understand myself. But now I'm

wondering, how can I tell the difference between my genuine personality and leftover trauma responses?

For example, I tend to put others' needs first, work hard to maintain relationships, help people

even when it costs me, and adapt myself to fit different

social situations. These feel like my values now. But I wonder if they're actually just old

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