Trauma Bonding, Differentiation, and Other Topics
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
4.6 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 20 August 2021
⏱️ 74 minutes
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| 0:00.0 | Hey, deserving listeners. I thought I would answer some patron emails. This first emails from |
| 0:04.5 | anonymous upper tier patron, they write, can you please talk about trauma bonding? I've recently |
| 0:10.9 | heard a few influential people on YouTube using the term trauma bonding in an incorrect manner. |
| 0:17.2 | They all use it in the context of bonding with someone that has been through similar |
| 0:22.0 | traumatic experiences, end of email. Right. So the term trauma bonding is related to abuse, |
| 0:31.9 | when you bond with your abuser. And I can see why people would misuse it or even just invent a |
| 0:39.2 | new term. Not a lot of people even in intimate partner violence circles necessarily use the term |
| 0:45.7 | trauma bonding very often. So it's either that they are misunderstanding the term or they've just |
| 0:52.5 | invented a new phrase. And it just coincides with a term in intimate partner violence or in |
| 1:01.1 | abuse circles. So other terms that people will abuse, like when they say codependency, that will |
| 1:09.1 | bother me, because that's clearly not something that they came up on their own. But it's possible |
| 1:13.9 | that people just came up with trauma bonding on their own and they're using it to refer to, |
| 1:18.1 | as you say, bonding over going through similar traumas. And I don't know if that really bothers me |
| 1:23.8 | that much in my pedanticness. But yeah, let's talk about trauma bonding. So like I said, |
| 1:29.4 | it's when victims bond with the perpetrator essentially. It's like Stockholm syndrome. |
| 1:34.3 | There are a lot of relationships types that this will be applied to in the literature, |
| 1:38.0 | obviously in a partner violence, domestic violence, relationships, romantic relationships. |
| 1:42.5 | But also cults or hostage situations at work with an abuse of boss, sex trafficking, |
| 1:49.4 | you know, pimp sort of situations and even a parent child relationship. It's a part of the |
| 1:54.6 | abuse cycle. When the abuse happens, there's usually a cycle that will, you know, the pendulum will |
| 2:01.3 | swing from abuse to reward to abuse to reward. And often it's done in an unpredictable manner by |
| 2:07.7 | the abuser. And this can cause the victim to feel like they're always walking on eggshells |
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