Hello, friends. Welcome to the Bride Morning podcast. I'm your host, Elena Aguilar.

And in each podcast episode, you'll hear me demonstrate how you can lead conversations that build connection and spark change.

I'm going to start this episode off with a bold proclamation.

Intentionally cultivating our ways of being is the most powerful work we do.

I believe this wholeheartedly.

My unshakable belief is built on years of experience, and today I'm going to share with you the origin story of this belief and of the resulting five dispositions of a transformational coach.

The five dispositions that I know for certain will transform all of your conversations

at work and in your personal life.

And I know that's a big claim, but it's one I stand behind.

So I'm going to take you back in time to a morning many, many years ago when I was summoned to a three-hour meeting for coaches in the central office.

I did not want to go to this meeting.

I anticipated that it would be a waste of time and I'd have to cancel several classroom observations at the last

minute despite not wanting to be there. As the meeting opened, I made a note at the top of the

agenda. My intention is not to be grumpy. So in yoga classes, I had learned about setting intentions,

and I figured that identifying one might help me to not be so miserable in that meeting.

After I'd finished writing that down, an inner voice spoke up.

Frame it in the positive, Elena. How do you want to be experienced? So I scribbled an addendum. I want to be open and receptive. And then the little voice

spoke again.

What will that look or sound like?

So I drew an arrow down the side of the paper and I wrote,

My facial expressions will express curiosity.

I'll make eye contact with the leader.

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