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Stacey London and I have been having the best conversation about midlife and how this chapter isn't a decline,

but it's a real power shift as we grow and we regenerate. Because here's the thing. We can talk

all day long about what to wear as we age, but the harder part is standing in front of the mirror and loving what you see.

So let's start there.

Okay.

You talk about being able to look in the mirror without emotion and say, I love this part of me,

I don't love this part of me, so that we can dress the good parts.

All the parts. Well, all the parts, but how do we do that? First of all, how do we look in the mirror and have no emotional connection to saying, oh, I don't like this about myself? Well, you can't. You will if you stare in the mirror long enough. When you start, you're going to be like, oh, my God, I don't want to

look at these stretch marks. I hate the silly light. When did my ass melt into the back of my knees? You got to stand in front of that mirror while all those, all that negative self-talk just plays over and over and over again. And then eventually you're going to be like, all right, girl, we get it. You don't like your ass. You do like your shoulders. You like your arms. Whatever it is.

But you have to stay there until the embodiment of those feelings, the hatred of your knees or

whatever it is burns off. Because underneath that is just the understanding that your knees are not your favorite

body part, right? Once you can take away the emotion out of it and just say my knees are not

a part of my body that I love, but my arms are, then you start to think about, okay, maybe I'm

not going to wear a miniskirt, but I'm definitely going to do a trouser that,

you know, with like a really sexy top because I love showing my shoulders and my arms.

You start to think about how you consciously camouflage. And I know that sounds a little Gwyneth Paltrow,

but I really do mean it. I wrote it in my book 15 years ago that really consciously camouflaging means that

you know you don't love the way something looks, but you are honoring the fact that you don't love

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