You know, I think it's just really important that family members, first of all, are patient

and understand that there's no one way of coming out. And, you know, some people come out on

Facebook to thousands of friends and other people go through a very long process of figuring out

who they think at least will be the safest person.

And maybe that's the only person they tell for months before they try someone else.

So to be very patient and allow that person to have their own process of coming out and to not force it,

to as a family member to try to learn as much as you can

about what it means to be part of the gay community and to kind of question maybe your

own biases and your own areas of blindness or misunderstanding about the topic. And then, of course,

just being willing, I think, to challenge homophobia

whenever you see it out in the world. When a workplace person tells an off-color joke or

makes an anti-gay comment or just even a microaggression, having the courage to speak up and maybe even express

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Hey, you guys, while we know relationships are wonderful, they are also really hard.

Many of us believe that they shouldn't be, that if we have good connection and good communication,

things will just go smoothly. But it's really that belief that can make us feel stubborn and even

more hopeless. So relationships take work. It does for Sue and I. We can make it look easy.

It's not. And one of the ways is because many of us, we differ. We differ in what activates us,

what makes us feel threat, the expectation. And it's these differences that are held in our body,

not our thoughts. And they influence how we talk, how we love, how we fight. So holding that belief,

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