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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children

TPP 501: An Intimate Conversation with Debbie & Derin About Their Co-Parenting Journey (Part 3)

Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children

Debbie Reber

Education, Kids & Family, Parenting

4.8 • 1K Ratings

🗓️ 28 April 2026

⏱️ 41 minutes

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Summary

In this special episode, I’m joined by my husband, Derin, for a candid and heartfelt reflection on our journey together—more than eight years of parenting, navigating relationship shifts, and supporting our neurodivergent child through adolescence and into early adulthood. This is a personal conversation for us, one where we open up about what this path has really looked like behind the scenes. We talk about how our partnership has evolved over time, the challenges we’ve faced individually and together, and the ways we’ve learned to stay connected through some very intense seasons. We also share what’s helped us—communication, honesty, a willingness to grow—and how we’ve come to better understand each other while showing up for our child. This is an honest look at the complexities of parenting and partnership, and what it means to keep choosing each other along the way. About Derin Basden Derin Basden is a seasoned and accomplished leader with a proven track record in technology, design, and operations, gained through working with major multinational corporations, including NBCUniversal, Disney, and Microsoft. He is also the husband of Debbie Reber, the founder of Tilt Parenting, and a dedicated supporter of her work. He is enthusiastic about his role on the Tilt Team and is committed to contributing to the movement that empowers neurodivergent children to achieve their full potential. Derin leads technology and finance operations for Tilt, and ensures the smooth functioning and effective execution of Tilt’s mission. Things you'll learn from this episode  How family life evolves through moves, global stressors, and the transition from childhood to young adulthood Why adolescence reshapes family dynamics and invites growth for both parents and kids How maintaining a strong partnership through communication, shared routines, and intentional connection supports the whole system Why respecting autonomy while staying connected is essential when parenting a neurodivergent young adult How simple rituals—like walks, humor, and honest conversations—help rebuild and sustain connection Why self-regulation, honesty, and ongoing personal growth are key to navigating changing roles within the family Resources mentioned  Debbie & Derin on Their Parenting Journey: Part 1 (Tilt Parenting podcast, 2017) Debbie & Derin on Their Parenting Journey: Part 2 (Tilt Parenting podcast, 2018) Derin Basden - LinkedIn Minecraft Mods mentioned (Inventory Pets, Animania, Better Invisibility) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0

Hey there, it's Debbie. Parenting neurodivergent kids can be messy, lonely, and overwhelming,

0:05.8

but it does not have to be. This is why I created the differently wired club, the very first

0:11.2

membership community of its kind. In the club, you'll get a lot of access to me. I go live in the

0:16.6

club of four to five times a month to answer your questions, to share insights, and just hang and

0:21.4

being community together. I'm also in the private discussion boards daily, and that is a great

0:26.3

place to get feedback on those sticky things that you're dealing with. I'm in there every day

0:30.5

because this is truly my passion, helping parents like you feel connected, supported, and empowered.

0:36.8

So if you're ready to make real shifts in your

0:39.0

parenting journey, I hope you'll join us in the differently wired club. Go to tiltparenting.com

0:44.1

slash club to learn more. That's tiltparenting.com slash club.

0:52.8

I'm Debbie Reber and this is full tilt parenting and I'm a very special episode for you today

0:58.4

because I have invited my husband, Darren, to join me for a follow-up conversation on how things

1:06.0

are going in our parenting slash partner dynamic. And I say follow up because we've done two episodes

1:12.6

together before, but it's been a while. The last one we did was actually in 2018. So eight

1:19.8

years ago. A lot's changed since then. Some things haven't changed at all. And one of the things

1:25.7

I get asked often in my community and from listeners is

1:29.7

how do we do this as a couple when our partner's not on the same page. What does that look like?

1:34.4

And how can we make this work? So we thought we would catch you guys up on what has looked like

1:38.8

over the past eight years going through adolescence and now having a young adult who we are supporting and scaffolding

1:45.9

from afar. Well, Darren and I are figuring out how to do that together. So we didn't do a lot of

1:51.2

prep for this. We had some things we knew we wanted to talk about and then we just started recording

1:56.3

and thought we would see what came out. So I think it's a surprise to both of us. And I hope it is

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