The Welcome to mom and dad are fighting, slate's parenting podcast for Thursday, September 20th,

the Toxic Preschool Edition. I'm Gabriel Roth. I'm an editor at Slate. I'm the father of Eliza, who's

seven and Leo who is four, and I have a cough.

I'm a journalist and podcaster in New Hampshire and I am mom to Henry who is 17,

Teddy who is 15 and my stepdaughter Lily who's away at college who is 18 and I am Steve Liktai I am the

executive producer of podcast at slate and I am the dad to Hank 7 and Gus

4 Carvel Wallace will be back next week.

Today on our show we have a question about toxic masculinity and we have another about what

to do when your kid's teacher is giving them the wrong kind of praise.

Plus, as always, we'll have triumphs and fails.

We'll have recommendations on Slate Plus.

We'll take another question, this one with a crisp,

colorful candy shell and a delicious chocolaty center.

But first, triumphs and fails. Candy Shell and a delicious chocolaty center.

But first triumphs and fails.

Steve, you're our guest host this week.

Do you have a triumph for a fail for us?

It's a triumph that came from a fail.

But don't they all, I suppose? Okay, so, you know that scene in

airplane where one of the passengers becomes hysterical and the steward to shakes her and tells her to calm

down and then another passenger walks up and says he'll take care of it and he slaps her and

then Leslie Nielsen's character shows up and slakes her and slaps her and then the camera pans

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