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The Liz Moody Podcast

Top Couples Therapist: How To Stop Settling For Less Than You Deserve (Even When He Thinks Everything's Fine)

The Liz Moody Podcast

Liz Moody

Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.93.2K Ratings

🗓️ 3 June 2026

⏱️ 110 minutes

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Summary

We are diving deep into the real reasons men are not doing their part in relationships, and exactly how you can help change that. Whether you want better sex, or for him to take on more of the mental load, or you want to know if you're even with the right person, or if the relationship is worth staying in, we're going to get into that today. I sit down with Zach Brittle, one of the only couples therapists in the entire world certified in both the Gottman method and Terry Real's Relational Life therapy. His work has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, and Vanity Fair. Zach is so pragmatic and has really interesting advice on some of the trickiest issues out there. We also talk about what men secretly think and feel behind the scenes that they're not sharing, and we solve a ton of the real-life relationship struggles that you guys wrote in.  🎧 What you’ll learn: • How to get your needs met without nagging, criticizing, or picking a fight • How to tell if your partner can't do the work or simply won't • What men are secretly thinking and feeling but never say out loud • The one question that ends most arguments before they escalate • The 4 behaviors that predict relationship breakdown • The key sign a relationship will survive hard times Check out our NEW YouTube Channel with tons of YouTube exclusive Shorts, exclusive podcast content, and full video episodes: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@LizMoodyTV⁠  Check out the previous episodes of The Liz Moody Podcast discussed today: Fighting Can Make Your Relationship Better—If You Do It THIS Way with Drs Julie & John Gottman For more from Zach Brittle: • Website: https://zachbrittle.com/  • Substack: https://zachbrittle.substack.com/  • Podcast: https://marriagetherapyradio.com/all-episodes/  Ready to uplevel every part of your life? Order Liz’s book 100 Ways to Change Your Life: The Science of Leveling Up Health, Happiness, Relationships & Success now!  Connect with Liz on Instagram @lizmoody or online at www.lizmoody.com. Subscribe to the substack by visiting https://lizmoody.substack.com/welcome.Buy our cute sweatshirts, conversation cards, and more at https://shop.lizmoody.com/. Use our discount codes from our  highly vetted and tested brand partners by visiting https://www.lizmoody.com/codes.  To join The Liz Moody Podcast Club Facebook group, go to www.facebook.com/groups/thelizmoodypodcast. This episode is brought to you completely free thanks to the following podcast sponsors: • Birch: go to https://BirchLiving.com/LizMoody for 20% off a new mattress. • Lumebox: right now get 40% off, that's $260 off the regular price of $629, when you go to TheLumeBox.com/Liz. • Wildgrain: go to Wildgrain.com/LizMoody to get $30 off your first box + FREE croissants for LIFE. • Timeline: visit Timeline.com/Liz to save up to 39% off. • LMNT: head to https://DrinkLMNT.com/Liz to get a FREE 8-count sample pack with any order. The Liz Moody Podcast cover art by Zack. The Liz Moody Podcast music by Alex Ruimy. This podcast and website represents the opinions of Liz Moody and her guests to the show. The content here should not be taken as medical advice. The content here is for information purposes only, and because each person is so unique, please consult your healthcare professional for any medical questions.The Liz Moody Podcast Episode 436. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

If you feel like you're the only one who's working to make your relationship better,

0:03.8

you are not alone.

0:05.3

It's pretty much the most common problem out there these days.

0:09.2

Women who know they deserve more in their relationships, but who don't know how to get their

0:13.3

partners to give it to them.

0:15.3

Today I'm sitting down with Zach Brittle, one of the only couples therapists in the entire

0:19.7

world, certified in both the Gottman

0:21.8

method and Terry Reel's relational life therapy. He's written a ton of books. His work has been

0:26.7

featured in the New York Times, The Washington Post and Vanity Fair. And today we are diving deep

0:31.6

into the real reasons men are not doing their part in relationships. And exactly how you can help change that. Whether you want

0:39.1

better sex or for him to take on more of the mental load, or you want to know how to know if

0:43.9

you're even with the right person, or if the relationship is worth staying in, we're going to get

0:48.9

into that today. We're also going to talk about what men are secretly thinking and feeling behind

0:54.0

the scenes that they're not sharing. And we're going to solve a ton of the real-life relationship struggles that you guys wrote in. I'm obsessed with this conversation. Zach is so pragmatic. He's so smart. And he just has some really interesting advice on some of the trickiest issues out there. Hot tip, if it were me, this is one that I would listen to with my partner.

1:12.8

I think it'll spark some really interesting, really helpful conversations.

1:16.6

Welcome to the Liz Moody podcast where we believe that there is always something that you

1:20.5

can do to create a life that feels amazing.

1:23.5

And we help you figure out how to find the lever to pull at any moment to actually do that. Zach Brittle, welcome to the podcast. I'm so excited to have you here. We're going to dive into so many different parts of like, how do we get our partners to do the work in the relationship? We're going to dive into listener questions, struggles they've been having. But I wanted to ask, something stood out to me about the bio

1:44.4

that you sent me. Okay. You said that you've been happily married for 25 out of the 28 years

1:49.8

you've been married. Yeah. What happened in the other three years? Number one, that's the,

1:53.9

that's the line in my bio that's got me more business than anything. People love knowing that that is a

1:59.5

thing that can be true for a therapist, couples therapists

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