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Hey guys, welcome to Tommy Talk. And today we're talking about when you should give a friend some space.

So this is a tricky one because everybody requires something different in a friendship.

Right. And I'll speak from my own experience.

As a friend, for someone I love, I want them to know I'm always there for them. And I will do

anything in my power to make them feel better if they're upset or to show them that I'm their

ride or die. That's just who I am. As you know, I'm an Italian from Jersey. Loyalty is huge

for me. And I really want the people in my life to know that they are loved and cared for

and that I will be here for you in any way I can.

But I've often had to learn over the course of my life and over the course of friendships

that people require different things. And not everybody always

wants you checking in on them all the time or following up or asking questions. And I'm the

opposite. Like I don't care. You can ask me a million questions. You can check in with me a million

times a day. Like I like that. I respond to that. I guess it's one of my love

languages. I don't get offended or annoyed by it. I very rarely feel smothered or bothered by that.

But there are people in very close to who do have different needs and who do require different

things. So when should you set a boundary with a friend or kind of back off or give a friend space

in a way that doesn't hurt your relationship or your friendship or doesn't make them feel

like you don't care but makes you feel like they're being heard and listen to?

So there's a few things that I kind of tend to follow as a rule. And I've learned this.

I'm not perfect. And sometimes I have, you know, been told, stop checking in or enough. Like,

I love you, but like this is enough. Because again, the inclination when someone's hurting or

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