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The Lively Show

TLS #108 with Katherine Woodward Thomas: Consciously Completing a Relationship

The Lively Show

Bella Lively

Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.61.6K Ratings

🗓️ 10 December 2015

⏱️ 67 minutes

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Summary

This episode is very near and dear to my heart and I have been looking forward to sharing this with you, my dear friends, for a while now.

For many reasons which are explained in this episode, I have asked bestselling author, Katherine Woodward Thomas, on the show to share her new book, Conscious Uncoupling, which lays out her five step process to consciously uncoupling and living happily even after.

I have used Katherine’s process personally over the past few months, and it has transformed a potentially negative or destructive process into one of peace, joy, and love. Now, I’d like to share her approach with you.

This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn about a five step process to help lovingly complete a relationship wholeheartedly, or for anyone who wants to learn about a meaningful new chapter in my own life.

IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL FIND OUT ABOUT

  • Katherine tells us how her life was defined by growing up with her parent’s divorce and how that evolved today as an author and psychotherapist.

  • She tells us the story of how she set intentions for her life and the beginnings of her inner journey of self reflection.

  • Katherine shows us how she used her own personal experience in creating her seven steps to help people with their relationships.

  • She tells us about her uncoupling with her husband and the positive outcome it had on her life as well as her family’s lives.

  • She describes that finding emotional freedom moves us from the difficult and emotional issues of a breakup to a more positive outcome.

  • Katherine explains that you need to shift your perspective and begin taking personal responsibility for your part in the relationship and thus reclaim your power and your life.

  • She talks about her ”source-fracture story” theory and how it’s been the underlying cause of disappointing patterns in love which can help heal your heart.

  • Katherine says that couples need to see themselves as capable of generating a positive future themselves and everyone impacted by the breakup..

  • Katherine finishes with her fifth step which is to create your happily even after life by making wise and life-affirming decisions as they reinvent their life.
  • She tells us how “affect labeling” can help us control feelings and emotions.

  • Katherine describes how uncoupling can leave you better equipped to love with a bigger, more trusting heart.

SHOW NOTES

Grace Bonney

Calling in “The One”

Design*Sponge at Home

Conscious Uncoupling

Ken McLeod

Matthew Lieberman

Sabbath

Transcript

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0:00.0

You're listening to the lively show episode 108.

0:04.0

Welcome to the lively show. I'm your host Jess Lively and this blog cast is designed to

0:10.7

uplift inspire and add a little extra intention to your everyday. Welcome to the show guys. Thank you so so much as always for listening.

0:25.0

Today's episode is special. Not only is this episode highly impactful for anyone who does need to go through or is going through a conscious uncoupling, a conscious

0:37.0

completion of a relationship, but also because I have actually been using this process in my own life and relationship with Mr.

0:44.8

Lively. In a very mutual, peaceful, and loving way we have decided several months ago,

0:51.0

about two months ago I think it's been now to consciously

0:54.9

complete our marriage and continue our relationship as friends going

0:58.9

forward through the future. We look at ourselves as now being an expanded family where Mr.

1:05.7

Lively and Franklin, our Westie, are now living in Oregon and Ellie and I, the

1:12.0

ladies of the house, are staying in Ann Arbor, at least for the time being,

1:16.2

living here in the current house that we had planned to have babies and do a big addition in as well.

1:22.2

That's not going to be the case and as you'll hear in the

1:25.1

episode you'll find out why but I please want you guys to know this has been a

1:29.5

decision that we have made with great care and great love. I didn't see it coming in that I

1:36.3

never thought we would get here but I also never thought we would mutually arrive

1:40.5

to this beautiful conclusion of that chapter of our relationship and be able to navigate to such a wonderful and fulfilling new chapter as well.

1:50.0

I have not shared this right away as we went through this process because I took a lesson from Grace Bonnie of Design Sponge who was on the show early in season one.

2:00.0

In her episode she had really encouraged everyone in their online journeys to process

2:06.8

their own situations, especially personal relationship situations in particular at their own pace and privately if that made the most

2:15.2

sense for them and then to come and share that news in a appropriate way that felt right for the

2:21.3

person when they were ready to share that news with the

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