This is the Authentic Sex Podcast, real-life conversations about sex, pleasure and relationships.

I'm your host, Juliet Allen.

Welcome to episode number 161 of the Authentic Sex Podcast.

My name is Juliet, Alan.

I'm a sexologist and sex and relationship coach.

And today on this episode of authentic sex,

I'm talking to you about overcoming performance anxiety

and building sexual confidence.

Now, this is a topic that a lot of listeners will relate to.

We have all at some stage in our lives felt some form of not all of us anxiety, but apprehension or worry about our sex lives.

Now, this may have happened for you when you were younger and you first began exploring and perhaps you hadn't had

the sex education that was needed for you to feel like you knew what you were doing and even if you

had it was still new to you so you were you were kind of fumbling in the dark in a way literally or it may be that you're an adult

and you are well into your adult years and you consistently feel extremely anxious about sex

and feel like your confidence is low. So there's all types of performance anxiety that can play out sexually.

And the key is to build sexual confidence.

But that's easier said than done, right?

It's easy for me as the sexologist to say,

you know what, If you build a sexual

confidence, you won't have the anxiety anymore because it's not that simple. It's very complex.

We are all complex human beings with our own unique challenges in all areas of our life,

including sex. And for some of us, this is really big and it actually consumes a lot of our,

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