Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life

lessons and revelations. I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated.

So here's the part, can we go into the Joy? Yes, Joy. Am I talking too much?

No. Okay. That's why you're here. I get fired up. So when we have chronic

hypervigilance and we have chronic trauma our brain structures get stuck in this is sometimes

called negativity bias.

You can talk about the default mode network if you're familiar with those terms, but basically what happens is your brain is running a script that the world is dangerous.

And that script is like when the TV is on in the room and it's like playing Seinfeld all the time.

And when you're doing something and you're engaged, the TV's on but you're not really paying attention to the plot.

But when things get quiet, it's almost like you turn the volume up

even if you didn't actually turn the volume up right that TV show is always

running in the background when your default mode network is stuck in a belief that the world is unsafe,

that other people are unsafe, that you are in danger,

that's the script that's running behind the scenes all the time.

And that can make things like

joy feel completely inaccessible and yet we know if from the neuroscience that if you

can tap into joy hope and gratitude you can rewire that system.

So now we just have to figure out how to build the bridge.

How do you, when you're stuck in negativity bias, seeing all of the danger and all of the negative,

how can you welcome joy back into your life?

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