insecurity and self-hate on this edition of Truth and Love.

I'm Dale Johnson, and you're listening to Truth in Love, a podcast of the Association of Certified

Biblical Counselors, where we seek to provide biblical solutions to the problems that people

face. Now, as you know, we always seek to provide biblical solutions to the problems that people face.

Now, as you know, we always like to think biblically about the topics that we discuss here.

This issue of insecurity and self-hate certainly comes in different degrees.

I'm so grateful that I have my friend Jeremy Pierre to help us think biblically about this.

Jeremy is the dean of the Bill of Graham School of Missions and Evangelism and Ministry, as well as Professor of Biblical Counseling at the

Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. He's authored several books, including The Dynamic Heart in Daily

Life, the pastor in counseling, when home hurts responding wisely to domestic abuse in your church,

and the children's storybook Bible, God with us, a journey home. He also serves as a staff

pastor at Clifton Baptist Church in Louisville, Kentucky. He's married to Sarah and together

they're busy raising five children. Jeremy, thank you so much for joining us. So appreciate the work that you're doing there at Southern, the books that you're writing, the classes that you're teaching, the ways in which you're learning to lead the Billy Graham School. Congratulations on that, by the way. And thank you for being here to help us think biblically about this issue of insecurity and self-hate. Absolutely. Thank you for having me. Dale, I'm really thankful for your ministry as well. Thank you, brother. Listen, as we work through this, as I mentioned, this is an issue that comes in degrees. Some people are at the place of being at the very bottom. Others deal with insecurity on different levels. And I want to jump right into this. What are what are some of the ways or what is

insecurity in the ways in which you're talking about it here? And how does it, how does it affect a person's

relationships? Yeah. So insecurity is one of those flexible words, right? That can mean something

sort of low boiling or or boiling over on the harsher end of things, which we could maybe

even describe a self-hatred at that point. So, you know, insecurity and self-hate, it's basically

our heart's attempt to condemn the person that I am in preference for who I ought to be or how I

perceive I ought to be. And so that really can take

on a vicious cycle because it boils down to a problem with our self-perception. Are we seeing

ourselves in a way consistent with the way the scriptures talk about us with God's preferences and God's values?

Or have we taken on some kind of alternate set of values or standards that we're measuring ourselves by and finding ourselves lacking and thus getting really upset and frustrated with ourselves.

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