Restoring Trust after an adulterous affair on this edition of Truth and Love.

I'm Dale Johnson and you're listening to Truth and Love, a podcast of the Association of Certified

Biblical Counselors, where we seek to provide biblical solutions for the

problems that people face. And today, I'm delighted to have with us one of our board members,

Kevin Bacchus. He's been a long-time member of ACBC, and he serves as a pastor of Bible Presbyterian

Church in Grand Island, New York. He's also a chaplain with law enforcement

in New York, and I'm so grateful that he's here. He also teaches at Western Reform Seminary

in Tacoma, Washington, also at Greenville Presbyterian Theological Seminary in Greenville, South

Carolina. And he teaches a few courses for Reform Presbyterian Theological Seminary in Pittsburgh,

Pennsylvania. Kevin, I'm so grateful that you're here. This is such an important topic that

so many people have had to walk through the difficulty and the destruction of an adulterous

relationship. So, brother, thank you for coming, for speaking on this topic and encouraging folks who are

walking through that difficulty.

Now, I want to begin, if we can, Kevin, talking about this issue because often what happens

in a broken relationship like this is people lose trust.

But I think it's helpful that we sort of define our terms first.

So what is trust? What is it to trust in a person? And how does that type of trust actually develop?

Trust is essentially defined as a firm belief in someone else. Your trust, you have a confidence that they're going to be acting with your best interests at heart, that they have an ability to demonstrate the kind of

care that you believe that you're looking for in that relationship, and that you've got a pattern

and track record that there are actions that back up that confidence that you have.

It's really rooted in a belief in a person or an institution, if it's of that kind.

But it comes always through a period of

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