When couples disagree about sex on this edition of Truth and Love.

I'm Heath Lambert and you're listening to Truth and Love, a podcast of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors,

where we seek to provide biblical solutions for the problems that people face.

My guest this week is Dr. Scott Mel, the pastor of Cornerstone, L.A. He's also a counselor certified with ACBC.

And we are talking about an issue that every married couple has to address sooner or later, and that is the issue of conflict in

marriage over the issue of sex. Scott, I think a lot of people are familiar with the sort of

stereotype that guys are more interested in sex and women are often a little less interested in sex.

But give us some more information about the struggles that couples can face when they're

disagreeing about sex in their marriage. Well, obviously, disagreements about sex and marriage are

pretty typical, but it doesn't look as stereotypical, I think,

as we tend to think about it. I mean, I've met a lot of couples that have a husband who just

desires sex more, maybe more often than his wife does. I've also met a number of couples that

the wife desires sex more than her husband does.

The one thing I've never met is a couple who wants it exactly the same.

The reality is that there's always differences.

There's differences in desires for frequency.

There's differences in expectations.

There's oftentimes just a lot of differences, even in just an understanding,

like an understanding what is enjoyable for one another.

There's a lot of differences in understanding about just simple anatomy that oftentimes get in

the way and cause this tension between couples where they're just not on the same page.

They're not communicating the way that they want to.

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