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And it's Leah.

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It makes a huge difference for our show, so please do that. Thank you so much. And now let's start the show. Let's get in it. Hey, everybody, it's Nick Layton. And it's Leah Bonema. And we had so many great questions from you all in the wilderness. Aoo!

That we have a bonus episode. So here we go. Our first question is, quote, a friend, let's call her Lisa,

organized a surprise party for another friend. Let's call her Elaine. I have deep reservations

about surprise parties to begin with, but in this case,

we were supposed to show up at Elaine's house with appetizers and drinks in hand and invite

ourselves in. I feel like it's bad enough to spring a surprise party on someone who may not be

ready for it, but to expect Elaine to all of a sudden act as host in her own house is a bit much. I expressed my reservations to Lisa,

but she decided to go ahead with it. I begged off with an excuse that I was too busy getting ready

for an upcoming trip to attend, as I didn't want to cause a rift with Lisa by arguing with her over this.

Was there a better way to handle this situation? I wrote underneath it, is this a surprise party or is it an

invasion? I mean, this is bold. Bold. This is very bold. I mean, surprise parties in general,

you got to know your audience. Like, I don't know actually a lot of people in my life who actually would love a surprise party. I think for me, I don't, I feel like on some level like, oh, how nice that you thought of me and plan a party for me. But on the other hand, like, I don't want to be surprised. And I feel like you would not want a surprise party, right? Am I wrong? I feel like that's not your vibe.

I mean, I think we could go across the board and say, I don't even like parties.

Okay. Yeah, just leave the hummus on the counter and then leave.

But I mean, if you show up in my house with a bunch of people, there's a 90% chance that I'm in my pajamas. There's stuff everywhere. I'm in the middle

of something. I have like a face mask on. I'm not ready to entertain. I'm probably out of paper towels.

What's happening? Yeah. I mean, that was actually my thought. It's like, I keep a pretty tidy house,

but it is not tidy enough for guests

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