Being in a romantic relationship can go from feeling like an incredible high to something totally frustrating. You look at your partner and wonder what’s wrong with them, why can’t they understand what you’re saying, and why do they do things that drive you crazy? Often, relationships go south because both of the people in the relationship have things to work through and have expectations of the other person being able to work around all of their baggage and trauma without much communication of what’s actually going on. Jay Shetty has lived the life of a monk, and as a life coach, podcaster, speaker and best selling author, he’s been able to bring his learnings and his experience to people around the world. His latest book, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find, It Keep It, and Let It Go addresses what it looks like to figure out love for ourselves and bring that into every kind of relationship we have. In this conversation with Tom, Jay talks about the things we accept as currency of love because we haven’t defined and truly understood or experienced love with ourselves first. Sitting with yourself, listening and understanding your inner dialogue and self-talk is a major part of this journey to finding healthy long lasting love. How much time have you taken to yourself between relationships with yourself? Check out Jay Shetty’s latest book, 8 Rules of Love: https://www.amazon.com/Rules-Love-How-Find-Keep/dp/1982183063 Follow Jay Shetty: Website: https://jayshetty.me/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbV60AGIHKz2xIGvbk0LLvg Twitter: https://twitter.com/jayshettyiw Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jayshetty/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayShettyIW/ Podcast: https://on-purpose-with-jay-shetty.simplecast.com/ Attain Your Potential - Download the FREE Impact 90 Challenge Start Pack: bit.ly/3hr3zBi Click here to download your FREE guide to 100x YOUR EFFICIENCY IN 10 EASY STEPS: https://bit.ly/3F8qOJL Sponsors: Get $500 off Peloton Tread Packages that come with accessories like a heart rate band, workout mat and non-slip dumbbells. Just go to onepeleton.com to get the deal. Join Prince EA on the hot seat, and check out Sauna Sessions wherever you get your podcasts. Right now, you can save up to fifty percent at http://bluenile.com! Follow Deep Purpose on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or your favorite listening app!  Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact? If you’re ready to find true fulfillment, strengthen your focus, and ignite your true potential, the Impact Theory subscription was created just for you. Want to transform your health, sharpen your mindset, improve your relationship, or conquer the business world? This is your epicenter of greatness.  This is not for the faint of heart. This is for those who dare to learn obsessively, every day, day after day. Subscription Benefits: Unlock the gates to a treasure trove of wisdom from inspiring guests like Andrew Huberman, Mel Robbins, Hal Elrod, Matthew McConaughey, and many, many, more New episodes delivered ad-free Exclusive access to Tom’s AMAs, keynote speeches, and suggestions from his personal reading list You’ll also get access to an 5 additional podcasts with hundreds of archived Impact Theory episodes, meticulously curated into themed playlists covering health, mindset, business, relationships, and more: Legendary Mindset: Mindset & Self-Improvement Money Mindset: Business & Finance Relationship Theory: Relationships Health Theory: Mental & Physical Health Power Ups: Weekly Doses of Short Motivational Quotes  Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3PCvJaz Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices