This One Thing Is KILLING Modern Relationships
ManTalks Podcast
Connor Beaton
4.8 • 591 Ratings
🗓️ 6 November 2025
⏱️ 21 minutes
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Summary
I break down one of the biggest imbalances destroying modern relationships — the lack of reciprocity in expectations between men and women. I talk about how men are often taught to meet every expectation a woman has, but rarely to define their own standards. I’ll share how this dynamic leads to resentment, imbalance, and frustration, and what men can do to restore integrity, respect, and balance in their relationships.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 – The core imbalance in modern relationships
00:57 – What women are taught vs. what men are taught
02:44 – The cost of overgiving and having no standards
06:17 – Bringing your own expectations into relationships
09:13 – The moving target of expectations
10:40 – Restoring balance and reciprocity
12:22 – Knowing your value and defining your standards
14:11 – Communicating expectations and setting boundaries
16:55 – Don’t reward disrespect
18:50 – Expect deeply, love generously
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| 0:00.0 | All right, team. Welcome back to the man talk show. I'm Connor Beaton. And today, we're going to be talking about a bit of a charged topic, which is the main reason, in my opinion, one of the main imbalances in modern relationships and dating that is leading to |
| 0:23.7 | catastrophe, that is leading to the breakdown of so many modern relationships. And so what I'm going to do |
| 0:29.9 | is I'm going to lay out the imbalance. I'm going to lay out the main problem, talk about how it |
| 0:35.6 | shows up and what it causes, and then talk about what you can do |
| 0:39.4 | to start to rectify this issue. So let's dive straight in. And if you enjoy this video, |
| 0:44.7 | as always, subscribe, like the video, share the video, and don't forget to hit the little |
| 0:50.1 | bell notifications so that you get notified when I drop more videos like this. |
| 1:01.2 | Okay, here we go. Here's the issue. Here is the major imbalance in modern relationships. |
| 1:10.4 | Most women today have been taught what to expect from you as a man, but not how to treat you as a man. Whereas most men, you have been taught how to treat a woman, |
| 1:16.5 | but you have not been taught what to expect from her. Okay. So women are taught what to expect from men, |
| 1:24.1 | and we can see this in a lot of relationships where women have a list of things that |
| 1:29.5 | they expect from men. He should be this tall. I expect him to earn this amount of money. I expect him to |
| 1:36.0 | spend this amount of time with me. I expect him to have this type of degree. I expect him to live in |
| 1:41.7 | the city and to dress this way and to talk this way and to have these |
| 1:45.0 | types of friends. A lot of women have a list, a kind of laundry list or a bullet point list, |
| 1:52.0 | whether it's a on paper or in their head, of what they expect from men. And society has told women, |
| 1:58.6 | you should expect a lot from men and you should not settle for less than all of your expectations to be met. |
| 2:07.7 | Now, on the other hand, men are taught that in order to be successful with women, what should you do? |
| 2:14.1 | You should learn how to treat a woman right. how are we taught as men to treat women right |
| 2:22.5 | we are taught that you how you treat a woman right is by meeting all her expectations figure out |
| 2:31.4 | what she expects from you knock that shit out of the park, and you will be the |
| 2:36.2 | perfect boyfriend or husband, right? This is the kind of old analogy of happy wife, happy life. |
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