Hi my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

For all the people at your treats or the women who are watching or this thing at home

that just want to find their match, their partner, what's the first step they can take to start getting out of the weeds of like

failure after failure? We can start seeing some progress to greater potential matches or

a couple of things.

I mean, firstly, there's a guy called John Kaye who wrote a book called Obliquety.

And the whole idea of the book was,

obliquety is when you reach goals through indirect means.

So if you take building a business,

if your goal is to make money,

instead of focusing on making money,

focus on all the things that provide value to people.

Because the making money part will be the byproduct.

If you focus on, I need to get rich, I need to get rich,

I need to get rich, you're probably not going to do the things

that are going to get you rich.

Because what makes you financially wealthy?

The relationships you take time to build, that often for a long time you don't ask for anything you

don't even care to you just building you you know the products that you create

for no reason then you just think that they're great or that you think they have value or whatever the service that you provide people it's it's not

What's the quickest way for me to make money? Most people like that don't get rich in a relationship, there's all these things that build a relationship.

That really have nothing to, that don't feel like they have anything to do with a relationship.

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