What's going on, team?

Welcome back to the Mantok show.

Connor Beaton here.

And today we're going to talk about one of the most foundational pieces of masculinity.

Recently, I put a post up on Instagram, essentially talking about how masculinity isn't

inherently toxic, and that this notion of spouting off about toxic masculinity and constantly

talking about it and coming at men for toxic behavior or masculine traits that are toxic actually has a net

negative impact.

It actually, I don't see it actually doing anything necessarily good or helpful or creating

any sort of change.

You know, it's like the climate activists lately that have been going into art galleries

for some reason and

throwing tomato soup onto Monet paintings and Van Gogh paintings. It's like, those dudes are dead.

What the hell did they do to you? And why are you throwing tomato soup and gluing yourself to a

fricking wall as a protest for oil? Like there are so many different ways to create change and to

alter the course of things when it comes to these types of issues. But it seems to me that there's

this notion that by trying to use shame and trying to use derision that we can create change.

The challenge here is that shame never

creates the change that we want. If you're in a relationship and you want to have more sex,

or you know, you want to have better conversations, you want to feel more emotionally connected

to your partner, shaming them is legitimately the worst way to go about it. And yet there's this notion that has

showed up within the gender wars, within the mainstream narrative, within the mainstream

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