Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast, where we provide one lesson every single day to help you with your most important job, being a parent.

I'm Ryan Holliday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical wisdom, and insights from

parents just like you all over the world. Thank you for listening, and we hope this helps.

This is the most important skill to give them. It's good for them to be able to do math,

be helpful if they spoke other languages. They should know their way around finances. They

should know how to fix things. There is so much that we want to teach our kids, so much that we

want them to learn, but so many of the things we focus on as parents that the education

system focuses on well and good. They're

actually pretty meaningless without what you might call meta skills. This is something we talked about

in our episode with Dr. Becky Kennedy. What good is technical ability to do things without the ability

to regulate the emotions that success or failure or just plain life is going to generate as you do

those things. What good will the best schooling do or natural talent do if they can't handle setbacks?

If they have no resilience, if they can't, as we've talked about, deal with frustration.

We have to watch with close interests that our children come to possess what Emerson once called

a recuperative force.

He was talking about the ability to bounce back when someone says something hurtful, when they

go down at school at the bottom of the class, when they fail in competition or study or

of play with their mates.

If they lose their spirit at this, or if we come to be the kind of parent that simply

smooths these problems over or eliminates every obstacle, it's all over for them, he says.

But if they have that degree of buoyancy and resistance that makes light of these mishaps,

well, the world cannot stop them. The sky is the limit. So by all means, train and teach your kids.

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