Welcome to Darren Daly on demand, your most trusted resource to help you become better every day.

Here's your success mentor, Darren Hardy.

Good morning. Today I want to talk to you as a leader, as an influencer, as an authority in your tribe.

And no matter what you do, you are an authority to someone.

Maybe it's to your employees, to your vendors, to your peer group, to your church group, or to your

kids. The main lesson here is sometimes you have to let people feel the burn of failure.

Our tendency is to step in and throw water on it, to be the good guy or gal, the night in shining

armor to help save the damsel or bachelor in distress, to smooth it over, to help them justify,

excuse, or even look past the failure.

But that's not helpful.

They'll miss the learning.

They'll miss the growth.

It takes feeling the burn to stimulate growth.

This happened on our team recently. One of our members missed their numbers. They failed to deliver on their goal. This is after many months of trying, warning, and hard work and effort. The tendency for everybody else was to jump in and say, hey, it's okay. You know, this happened or that happened. So maybe that's why. But that's a mistake.

And I understand the intention.

It comes from a loving place.

But you would rob that person of maybe a very critical character-defining experience.

That defining experience won't be possible unless they really feel the burn of that failure,

to really let it sear into their soul. Only then will that pain

drive them to never let that happen again. But if you excuse it or gloss over it, it can't

teach, it can't instruct. Often it takes pain to give birth to change. When this person came to me

to apologize, I didn't say it's okay. I simply

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