“This Is Just Who I Am” | When Your Husband Refuses To Change, BPD Healing, And Lusting After Others (Problem communicating pt2)
2 Be Better
Chris Burkett
4.8 • 1K Ratings
🗓️ 21 November 2025
⏱️ 61 minutes
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Summary
In this 2 Be Better Podcast episode, Chris and Peaches kick things off with updates on their upcoming December 5–8 coed couples retreat, breaking down details on bunks, private rooms, who can come solo, and why these weekends are so powerful for couples and individuals who want real relationship growth. Then they dive straight into part two of a heavy email from a wife in a long term marriage, struggling with BPD, emotional safety, and a husband who refuses to change because “this is who I was when we got married.” They walk through her written letter, line by line, unpacking abandonment triggers, preloading divorce conversations, the difference between repair and resolution, and how to phrase “I” and “we” language so you are fighting for the relationship instead of fighting each other. If you are in a mentally exhausting marriage where every argument gets turned back on you, you feel like you are doing all the emotional work, or your healing journey is not supported by your spouse, this episode will feel painfully familiar and give you a clearer framework for what healthy communication and real change should look like.
From there, they expose the darker side of a husband who openly says he will not evolve, threatens to weaponize the kids in a divorce, and treats his wife as a conversational enemy while she tries to get her BPD into remission and protect her mental health. Chris and Peaches talk hard truths about when it is time to leave, what it actually means to be “too different,” why you cannot raise your husband like a toddler, and why real partnership requires both people to grow, not just the one with a diagnosis. They also respond to a separate email about a boyfriend constantly commenting on other women’s bodies, celebrity crushes, and homemade porn in relationships, giving straight talk on lusting after others while in a relationship, self pleasure, and why “hall passes” and “it is just a movie” slowly destroy self esteem and intimacy. If you are craving blunt marriage advice, BPD relationship insight, and no nonsense coaching on emotional safety, porn, and standards in your relationship, this video will give you language, clarity, and the permission to stop settling.
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| 0:00.0 | And look how far we've come, all the things we've done, did it all with love, |
| 0:09.3 | beauty from the bottom of all I want is you. |
| 0:14.7 | You're my favorite view, but there's nothing more. |
| 0:20.4 | Girl, you made my happy. And we are back welcome back bumble bitches uh Friday content the part two of whatever |
| 0:29.5 | we did earlier today yes we had CERN Collider conversation about possible copied universe |
| 0:37.0 | theory that was a whole lot of fun that went on for like |
| 0:39.3 | 15 minutes we recap the north carolina retreat which we won't be doing this time however we |
| 0:44.1 | will be talking about the one that's coming up in December in a few minutes yeah um i took a nap |
| 0:48.6 | it was fucking glorious when i tell you guys that this last week and kicked my ass earlier for those |
| 0:52.5 | of you were back from patreon it fucking wrecked Yeah, this is all I'm doing today. |
| 0:58.9 | I went to Wawa. Yeah, I picked us up lunch and we're recording. |
| 1:05.4 | Lazy. Yeah. It's phenomenal. I need to recoup. Yeah. So for those of you who were not here earlier today, we are doing another couple's retreat |
| 1:16.9 | in December. |
| 1:20.0 | It is the fifth through the eighth. |
| 1:21.3 | There are still some spots left. |
| 1:23.3 | It is a couples slash co-ed retreat. |
| 1:26.8 | There are four bunks for men, five bucks bununks for women, and then some private rooms for couples. |
| 1:32.5 | We will be doing pretty much everything that we just did at the last retreat, at the next retreat, but we will be including people who are not in relationships just because people would still find a whole lot of value in the conversations being |
| 1:45.0 | had. You'll still get a whole lot of group information. The only thing that you won't get from that |
| 1:49.4 | is the one-on-one coaching unless we have the time to do it. It doesn't mean that you won't get |
| 1:53.8 | one-on-time with us, one-on-one time with us. It just means that you won't get the coaching aspect |
| 1:58.1 | because of the time restraints for the weekend. However, you are going to have a good time if you go because we have yet to have a bad one when we do these things. I agree. I agree. I know that every time we do these back-to-back recording, there's not a whole lot to talk about before we get into the email. So I think we should. Oh, you got something? I have a question. Okay. So I was thinking about this past retreat and how the cooking situation was going. For the women's retreat, are we door dashing two meals Saturday and Sunday? We can doer dash every meal if that'll make you happy. Okay. I know the women want some cook time with you though. Yes. |
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