Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast, where we provide one lesson every single day to help you with your most important job, being a parent.

I'm Ryan Holiday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical wisdom, and insights from

parents just like you all over the world. Thank you for listening, and we hope this helps.

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We do. daily dad. We don't get to pick how tall our kids are, and neither do they. It's beyond their control,

whether they're big or small, whether they have the fastest reflexes or the strongest muscles

or the quickest wit. They don't control whether the coach loves them or is a jerk.

They don't control most of what happens in the classroom or the locker room for that matter.

As Cheryl Strayd writes in tiny beautiful things, you don't have a right to the cards you believe

you should have been dealt. So what do we tell our kids to focus on? What is always up to them? What they do in response to those

circumstances. What's up to them is whether they do their best or not, whether they try hard,

whether they find a way to enjoy the process. So after practice, after the game, after the big test,

you need to make sure that your questions and your criteria for judging them

reflect that, meaning not did you guys win, did you pass, but did you have fun? Did you do your best?

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