This is in conversation from Apple News. I'm Shemeita Basso. Today for our Think

Again series, Reconecting with your sense of self in parenthood.

I read this article a couple of

I read this article a couple of months back about millennials struggling to make their way through adulthood and I haven't stopped thinking about it since.

It was by Jessica Gross who writes about parenting and all things affecting the American

family today for the New York Times.

And it wasn't a knock on millennials.

It was a smart analysis of all the bigger societal changes

that have made everything from buying a house

to raising a family fundamentally different

than it was for past generations.

Jessica says there was one statistic in particular that made her want to

write that piece. The silent generation who are in their 80s and 90s now when they

were at 40 around 70% of them lived with a spouse and a child in a household.

And the comparable percentage for millennials is 30%. That's a huge shift over not a very long period of time.

That insight for her unlocked a new way of thinking about the challenges of modern parenthood.

And I think a lot of people were sold this idea that if you just follow the right steps,

you will have the stereotypical American dream and it's not to say that that's not still possible

it just doesn't look like what it used to look like.

The milestones are moving, goalposts, shifting, and that makes the

personal transition into parenthood as well as our shared vision of what parenting

should look like even more unclear. It's like

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