Things Not To Say To Your Loved Ones Who Need Care

All Home Care Matters

Enriched Life Home Care Services

Education, Health & Fitness

5.0 • 88 Ratings

🗓️ 21 August 2020

⏱️ 13 minutes

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Summary

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As our loved ones age and enter into their senior years these are supposed to be the “Golden Years” and there are happy moments, memorable moments, milestones to celebrate, and fond memories to reminisce about. However, they can also be times of strife and difficulty. Our loved ones can be slowly losing their independence and be left feeling a lack of control for the first time in their lives and it can also be as difficult for their family, children, and loved ones as they watch and try helping with these changes. Most families aren’t prepared when the time comes and quite often they are left unsure how to approach the situation and talk with their loved ones about the issues they are facing.

This is normal and understandable. Many times these situations come out of nowhere or they may see things that causes them concern. They may think mom or dad can handle it or maybe they see that dad is having difficulty walking unassisted and instead of talking to dad about it they decide to talk to mom and express concern. Then, mom wanting to protect her husband’s independence lets them know that dad is fine and that it’s just a little arthritis or they assure them that everything is fine because they don’t want to alarm their children. It can be a little difficult and tricky getting our parents and our elderly loved ones to acknowledge that there is anything to worry about. This is usually for two reasons – They are very private, independent, and from a generation of strength and pride. Another reason that’s common is they believe they are protecting their kids and family from being worried about them. If this sounds familiar, this episode will help you have a better and productive conversation with them by knowing what not to say to them when talking about the concerns that you have for them and their safety.

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0:00.0	Welcome to Home Care Matters, the show where we discuss all things home care, with discussions on important age-related matters and topics.
0:08.2	Brought to you by Enriched Life Home Care Services, the number one rated home care provider in Michigan by Top Rated Local.
0:19.5	Hello, and welcome back to all home care matters.
0:22.1	If this is your first time visiting us here at the show, thank you for taking time out to be with us today.
0:27.9	We appreciate and understand how valuable everyone's time is, and that is why we try and make each episode here at all home care matters, something that will hopefully matter to you.
0:38.3	We typically talk about things that you should do or say for your loved ones, but on this episode,
0:44.7	we're going to talk about things that you shouldn't do when you're talking with your loved one.
0:49.3	As our loved ones age and enter into their senior years, these are supposed to be the golden years,
0:55.3	and there are happy moments and memorable moments, milestones to be celebrated, and fond memories
1:00.7	to reminisce about. However, they can also be times of strife and difficulty. Our loved ones
1:06.9	can be slowly losing their independence and be left feeling a lack of control for the first time
1:12.5	in their lives. It can also be as difficult for their family, their children and loved ones as they
1:18.6	watch and try helping with these changes. Most families, though, aren't prepared when the time comes
1:24.7	and quite often they are left unsure how to approach the situation
1:27.9	and talk with their loved one about the issues they're facing. This is normal and understandable.
1:34.5	Many times these situations come out of nowhere or they may seem like some things that have a
1:40.8	concern today may not be a concern tomorrow and we often think mom or dad can handle it or
1:46.2	maybe they see that dad is having difficulty walking unassisted and instead of taking talking to dad
1:52.8	about it they decide to talk to mom and express concern or maybe they ask mom if everything is okay
1:59.2	and mom understandably wanting to protect her husband's independence, lets them know that
2:04.6	that is fine and it's just a little arthritis or they assure them that everything is fine because
2:09.6	they don't want to alarm their children that they have anything to worry about.
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