Yeah, men, like men are slapping chicks they meet on Tinder because they think the chicks want it.

But the chicks think the men want it.

Yeah.

But no one actually like some people want it.

Well, she's right.

Maybe in theory, but not in practice.

That it's one of the few things that's still left where you can truly like lose yourself and forget about the rest of the world blah blah blah blah

yeah it's a nice thing yeah it is a humane idea but um the other book that she talks about

yeah it gets into kind of like BDSM style arrangements that people have and that you know, we've always said on this show could be one of the least sexy

because you can do is have like contractual weird kinky sex.

Yeah, because it's about like tediously negotiating rules versus actually doing the real

thing.

She says almost nothing is perfectly knowable about sex.

Almost no act is always thrilling or always unpleasant.

Almost everything depends on context and context can always change.

I mean, yeah, that's correct.

In a nutshell.

I never thought I would get such a thoughtful and humane passage out of Giotolentino,

who's like a pretty decent writer.

It goes down easy.

She's,

but she's always kind of like hedging and caveating in a way that I find.

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